1 00:01:04,202 --> 00:01:05,410 Oops! 2 00:01:22,220 --> 00:01:25,326 Hello? Hello? 3 00:01:55,977 --> 00:01:57,151 Hi. 4 00:01:59,671 --> 00:02:02,708 Mm. How late can we go? 5 00:02:03,916 --> 00:02:06,781 - I don't know. - Do we have to go? 6 00:02:06,816 --> 00:02:08,231 - No. - Oh! 7 00:02:09,463 --> 00:02:10,693 You're lying. 8 00:02:11,619 --> 00:02:13,103 I am. 9 00:02:14,241 --> 00:02:15,518 I am. 10 00:02:28,389 --> 00:02:30,598 Monster bubbles! 11 00:02:33,810 --> 00:02:35,018 I think he wants you. 12 00:02:53,029 --> 00:02:54,769 That's funny. 13 00:02:59,903 --> 00:03:02,837 It's like she has a mustache right under her nose. 14 00:03:02,872 --> 00:03:05,081 - She does? - Yeah. 15 00:03:05,115 --> 00:03:06,876 It's just really big lips. 16 00:03:19,578 --> 00:03:21,062 - Greg. - Tom. 17 00:03:21,097 --> 00:03:23,168 - I wanted to say congratulations. - Thank you. 18 00:03:23,203 --> 00:03:24,677 - Yeah. - Only ten years of purgatory, right? 19 00:03:24,687 --> 00:03:25,885 - Right. - My brother-in-law, Greg. 20 00:03:25,895 --> 00:03:27,379 - Hi. - Hi. Nice to see you. 21 00:03:27,414 --> 00:03:29,465 I think Jake's, like, twice the size he was at Christmas. 22 00:03:29,475 --> 00:03:32,235 Oh, yeah. You know, we should really stop feeding him. 23 00:03:34,490 --> 00:03:35,870 Come on. Enjoy yourself. 24 00:03:35,905 --> 00:03:37,596 Corinne, my daughter, Alex. 25 00:03:37,631 --> 00:03:38,597 - Hi, nice to meet you -- - Hi. 26 00:03:38,632 --> 00:03:40,841 She worked with Paul Shuster 27 00:03:40,875 --> 00:03:42,670 from the public defenders office. 28 00:03:42,705 --> 00:03:44,120 You remember Paul? 29 00:03:44,154 --> 00:03:45,708 And it turns out before that 30 00:03:45,742 --> 00:03:47,917 she and your brother overlapped at Fordham 31 00:03:47,951 --> 00:03:48,952 but they never met. 32 00:03:48,987 --> 00:03:50,417 Oh. How funny. 33 00:03:50,428 --> 00:03:51,946 You must be so proud. 34 00:03:51,957 --> 00:03:53,601 I heard he's the youngest partner 35 00:03:53,612 --> 00:03:54,769 in the firm's history. 36 00:03:54,780 --> 00:03:57,852 Well, he's always been driven. What can I say? 37 00:03:57,863 --> 00:03:59,175 And you're an attorney, as well? 38 00:03:59,224 --> 00:04:01,537 Uh, no. I'm.. I mean, I was 39 00:04:01,712 --> 00:04:03,956 but I stopped practicing when I had my son. 40 00:04:03,967 --> 00:04:05,762 Thank God for the women's movement. 41 00:04:05,797 --> 00:04:07,557 She'll go back, trust me. 42 00:04:07,592 --> 00:04:09,886 - Oh. Is this you? - Oh, Jesus. 43 00:04:11,561 --> 00:04:13,632 What? It's adorable. 44 00:04:13,667 --> 00:04:15,358 Oh, she was so good. 45 00:04:15,393 --> 00:04:17,671 Now, if she had stuck to it, can you imagine? 46 00:04:17,705 --> 00:04:19,845 She's got the natural pose, the natural arch. 47 00:04:19,880 --> 00:04:22,469 Look at that, slim legs. Everything she needed. 48 00:04:22,503 --> 00:04:24,367 Gave up. What can you do? 49 00:04:24,402 --> 00:04:27,222 You can't push, push, push. You gotta let go, right? 50 00:04:27,233 --> 00:04:29,027 Right? 51 00:04:29,126 --> 00:04:31,404 She's humble. Ha! Where'd she get that? 52 00:04:32,524 --> 00:04:34,644 Thank you. 53 00:04:34,858 --> 00:04:36,138 And where are you guys applying? 54 00:04:36,172 --> 00:04:38,554 - Oh, boy. - What? 55 00:04:38,588 --> 00:04:40,728 Well, we loved our local public school 56 00:04:40,763 --> 00:04:42,868 but it just got rezoned. 57 00:04:42,879 --> 00:04:45,315 - No! - It'll, it'll be fine. 58 00:04:45,506 --> 00:04:48,025 The whole reason we moved, and now they won't let us send him. 59 00:04:48,052 --> 00:04:49,536 I swear, if Pembroke hadn't discovered 60 00:04:49,571 --> 00:04:51,987 that Kimmie had perfect pitch halfway through her interview 61 00:04:51,998 --> 00:04:54,242 which, mind you, we didn't even know.. 62 00:04:54,253 --> 00:04:56,565 I -- I mean, just forget it! 63 00:05:03,914 --> 00:05:05,191 Dizzy! 64 00:05:05,305 --> 00:05:07,307 - Dizzy. - Oh! 65 00:05:08,618 --> 00:05:11,103 - Wait. Come back! - But I must go. 66 00:05:11,161 --> 00:05:12,971 Please don't go. 67 00:05:13,709 --> 00:05:15,849 That's when you say, "I don't even know your name." 68 00:05:15,860 --> 00:05:17,414 But I do know your name. 69 00:05:17,432 --> 00:05:19,538 That's not how it goes. 70 00:05:19,620 --> 00:05:23,120 Well, maybe Mommy was improvising! 71 00:05:23,172 --> 00:05:25,312 Maybe she was improvising! 72 00:05:33,865 --> 00:05:35,505 My sister-in-law comes from serious money. 73 00:05:35,522 --> 00:05:37,612 I swear, all she does is shop for the kid. 74 00:05:37,647 --> 00:05:39,479 Meanwhile, I'm lucky if I can get Jake 75 00:05:39,490 --> 00:05:41,721 out of his pajama bottoms half the time. 76 00:05:41,732 --> 00:05:43,113 He likes to be comfortable. 77 00:05:43,343 --> 00:05:44,861 Hell, I'd do the same thing 78 00:05:44,896 --> 00:05:46,261 if I could get away with it. 79 00:05:46,272 --> 00:05:47,754 You think the other parents would mind? 80 00:05:47,764 --> 00:05:50,008 Their preschool director in a track suit? 81 00:05:50,086 --> 00:05:51,605 You would look hot in a track suit. 82 00:05:51,616 --> 00:05:53,100 You are such a liar. 83 00:05:54,296 --> 00:05:57,299 But I, you know, is that even what I want for Jake? 84 00:05:57,636 --> 00:05:59,842 A private school full of Kimmies? 85 00:05:59,876 --> 00:06:01,913 Even if we could afford it, which we can't -- 86 00:06:01,947 --> 00:06:03,339 Honey, honey. 87 00:06:03,350 --> 00:06:06,249 We're just talkin' options right now. Casting a wide net. 88 00:06:06,435 --> 00:06:08,333 - Here you go, ladies. - Thank you. 89 00:06:08,368 --> 00:06:10,197 - Unh-unh-unh! I got this. - No, no. 90 00:06:10,231 --> 00:06:13,580 Okay? You just get me the essay by Thursday. No excuses. 91 00:06:18,589 --> 00:06:20,038 Sandra? 92 00:06:20,417 --> 00:06:22,177 - Mm-hmm. - Come on back. 93 00:06:34,043 --> 00:06:36,356 I should probably warn you, I'm not sure I buy it. 94 00:06:37,441 --> 00:06:40,858 This.. I mean, it was, um, Ben's idea. 95 00:06:42,150 --> 00:06:43,565 Ben's my husband. 96 00:06:46,751 --> 00:06:47,751 For now. 97 00:06:50,311 --> 00:06:52,279 How long ago did he move out? 98 00:06:53,097 --> 00:06:54,313 Six days ago. 99 00:06:54,398 --> 00:06:56,193 Yeah, he found a temporary place. 100 00:06:57,407 --> 00:06:59,582 He says he'll do marriage counseling. 101 00:06:59,867 --> 00:07:01,628 But only if I.. 102 00:07:02,563 --> 00:07:04,841 ...work on me first. 103 00:07:08,289 --> 00:07:10,222 Suddenly, he's Dr. Phil. 104 00:07:21,958 --> 00:07:23,132 Can I ask, how's this work? 105 00:07:23,166 --> 00:07:25,321 I just sit here and talk and.. 106 00:07:25,568 --> 00:07:28,468 It seems like it's important for you to have a plan. 107 00:07:45,142 --> 00:07:47,075 Is that what I have to look forward to? 108 00:07:51,574 --> 00:07:54,228 "A rich man's wife became sick. 109 00:07:54,750 --> 00:07:58,063 "And when she felt that her end was drawing near 110 00:07:58,098 --> 00:08:01,481 "she called her only daughter to her bedside and said 111 00:08:01,515 --> 00:08:04,236 "'Dear child, remain good.' 112 00:08:04,477 --> 00:08:08,244 "The girl went out to her mother's grave every day and wept. 113 00:08:08,502 --> 00:08:10,297 "When winter came, the snow spread 114 00:08:10,308 --> 00:08:12,896 "a white cloth over the grave. 115 00:08:12,955 --> 00:08:16,130 "And when the spring sun had removed it again 116 00:08:16,321 --> 00:08:19,033 "the man took himself another wife. 117 00:08:19,533 --> 00:08:21,777 "Times soon grew very bad 118 00:08:21,788 --> 00:08:23,752 "for the poor stepchild. 119 00:08:24,607 --> 00:08:29,119 "'Why should that stupid goose sit in the parlor with us?' they said. 120 00:08:29,222 --> 00:08:31,500 'Out with this kitchen maid!'" 121 00:08:46,956 --> 00:08:49,000 - Home again, home again. - There you are. 122 00:08:49,011 --> 00:08:52,890 I stopped by Gristedes. God, what a zoo! 123 00:08:52,901 --> 00:08:55,179 Oh, thanks. You -- you didn't have to go tonight. 124 00:08:55,190 --> 00:08:56,985 - Oh, hello, hello, hello. - Hey. 125 00:08:58,089 --> 00:09:00,367 What is all this? 126 00:09:01,397 --> 00:09:04,227 It's a draft for the parent essay. 127 00:09:04,426 --> 00:09:05,875 For the private schools. 128 00:09:06,028 --> 00:09:07,343 - Alex -- - I know, I know. 129 00:09:07,354 --> 00:09:10,624 But I had lunch with Judy today 130 00:09:12,116 --> 00:09:15,173 and she thinks we might have a shot at a scholarship. 131 00:09:16,452 --> 00:09:17,557 Really? 132 00:09:18,862 --> 00:09:21,835 - Here, here, you relax. - No, no, no, I've got this. 133 00:09:23,935 --> 00:09:25,101 Well, you don't.. 134 00:09:25,323 --> 00:09:27,567 You don't think that's a waste of time? 135 00:09:27,601 --> 00:09:28,921 I mean, you know 136 00:09:28,932 --> 00:09:31,983 it's, it's a long shot obviously, but -- 137 00:09:32,054 --> 00:09:33,202 Right. 138 00:09:33,762 --> 00:09:36,143 I went by the public school that we are zoned for now 139 00:09:36,154 --> 00:09:38,915 and it's not great, honestly. 140 00:09:39,061 --> 00:09:40,407 The classrooms are overcrowded. 141 00:09:40,441 --> 00:09:43,272 I'm just worried he could get totally lost. 142 00:09:43,306 --> 00:09:46,538 I -- I know we've always said we're not those parents. 143 00:09:46,549 --> 00:09:48,789 - But I don't know, maybe? - Well, we can't afford to be. 144 00:09:49,830 --> 00:09:52,218 - Greg. Greg! - Relax! 145 00:09:52,229 --> 00:09:53,572 Anyway.. 146 00:09:54,732 --> 00:09:57,424 You know, she said we should at least try a few privates 147 00:09:57,458 --> 00:09:59,806 along with the magnet programs, so.. 148 00:09:59,840 --> 00:10:01,452 I was hoping you could help me brainstorm. 149 00:10:01,462 --> 00:10:03,603 - Tonight? - You're so much better at this. 150 00:10:03,637 --> 00:10:05,353 - Well, I'm not better at this than you. - No, no, no, you are. 151 00:10:05,363 --> 00:10:07,917 - Everything I write sounds so cloying. - Alex.. 152 00:10:09,507 --> 00:10:11,164 Is there a prompt? 153 00:10:11,276 --> 00:10:12,697 Oh, you know. 154 00:10:13,923 --> 00:10:15,649 "How is Jake more special than 155 00:10:15,684 --> 00:10:17,192 all the other hundreds of thousands --" 156 00:10:17,202 --> 00:10:19,101 Okay, okay. Is there an actual prompt? 157 00:10:19,823 --> 00:10:21,687 Uh.. Let's see. 158 00:10:23,381 --> 00:10:24,899 All right. 159 00:10:25,090 --> 00:10:29,197 "Imagine someone were to see a roomful of children playing. 160 00:10:29,294 --> 00:10:31,020 "Ignoring physical attributes 161 00:10:31,031 --> 00:10:33,586 how would they identify your child?" 162 00:10:34,955 --> 00:10:36,543 You tell 'em about this? 163 00:10:37,464 --> 00:10:39,155 - That is not funny! - No! 164 00:10:39,190 --> 00:10:40,709 That's exactly the kind of thing 165 00:10:40,743 --> 00:10:42,193 that sounds like parent bullshit. 166 00:10:42,227 --> 00:10:45,196 But that is not bullshit! He was hours old! 167 00:10:45,230 --> 00:10:46,991 Developmentally, babies don't typically 168 00:10:47,025 --> 00:10:48,544 do that for days, at least. 169 00:10:48,578 --> 00:10:49,811 - Yeah. - He was clearly advanced -- 170 00:10:49,821 --> 00:10:51,088 - Oh, be careful, be careful! - Oh, shit! 171 00:10:51,098 --> 00:10:52,296 What is she doing on the toaster oven? 172 00:10:52,306 --> 00:10:54,792 She's drying. Her head broke off. 173 00:10:54,826 --> 00:10:58,588 I guess she fell, and he came out sobbing 174 00:10:58,623 --> 00:11:00,901 with this decapitated Cinderella 175 00:11:00,936 --> 00:11:03,041 like she'd been guillotined. 176 00:11:03,076 --> 00:11:05,078 - So what, you superglued her? - Well.. 177 00:11:05,112 --> 00:11:07,114 You know, I kept insisting that she's fine. 178 00:11:07,149 --> 00:11:09,358 I told him that was another necklace. 179 00:11:09,392 --> 00:11:10,842 Oh. 180 00:11:10,877 --> 00:11:12,395 - He buy that? - I think? 181 00:11:12,430 --> 00:11:13,673 Mm-hmm. 182 00:11:16,537 --> 00:11:17,953 I've always said 183 00:11:18,019 --> 00:11:20,390 the more attention we pay now 184 00:11:20,542 --> 00:11:22,751 the more we really listen 185 00:11:22,831 --> 00:11:25,868 the more engaged and confident they'll be. 186 00:11:25,879 --> 00:11:28,088 Not just in school, but their whole lives. 187 00:11:28,342 --> 00:11:30,241 Which is why it is so important 188 00:11:30,275 --> 00:11:32,719 to create a preschool atmosphere 189 00:11:32,730 --> 00:11:34,821 where children are encouraged to be 190 00:11:34,832 --> 00:11:37,627 their truest, most authentic selves. 191 00:11:37,662 --> 00:11:40,458 At this age, that's really the most important thing. 192 00:11:40,492 --> 00:11:43,899 Yeah, but they're just playing all day, right? 193 00:11:43,910 --> 00:11:45,946 I mean, basically, what you've got here 194 00:11:45,981 --> 00:11:48,086 is a, a well-funded playroom. 195 00:11:48,121 --> 00:11:50,019 Well.. 196 00:11:50,054 --> 00:11:51,676 Uh, the truth is 197 00:11:51,711 --> 00:11:54,886 uh, creativity and imagination are both foundational 198 00:11:54,921 --> 00:11:57,199 for all types of higher learning. 199 00:11:57,233 --> 00:11:58,766 A colleague of mine wrote a great book 200 00:11:58,777 --> 00:12:01,193 on the subject, if you're interested. 201 00:12:01,204 --> 00:12:03,310 It's very accessible. 202 00:12:07,975 --> 00:12:10,771 - If it's crap, you can tell me. - Hush. 203 00:12:10,799 --> 00:12:12,167 It's just so hard to pitch him -- 204 00:12:12,178 --> 00:12:14,802 Oh, trust me, I get it. I get it. 205 00:12:15,926 --> 00:12:18,757 I am almost.. 206 00:12:21,499 --> 00:12:22,672 ...done. 207 00:12:23,453 --> 00:12:24,868 Okay. 208 00:12:25,020 --> 00:12:27,089 - My God, your face! - What? 209 00:12:27,166 --> 00:12:29,168 No -- no. M -- maybe this is not even worth it. 210 00:12:29,179 --> 00:12:31,144 - Stop. It's terrific. - Really? 211 00:12:31,198 --> 00:12:32,370 Yes. 212 00:12:32,924 --> 00:12:34,132 There's only one thing -- 213 00:12:34,167 --> 00:12:36,341 No, of course. I mean, you must have notes. 214 00:12:36,376 --> 00:12:39,714 You talk about his imagination, which is great 215 00:12:39,776 --> 00:12:41,827 since that's really the best indicator. 216 00:12:41,838 --> 00:12:43,805 Why not use that as a lead-in 217 00:12:43,832 --> 00:12:46,627 to talk a little about his gender expansive play. 218 00:12:49,082 --> 00:12:50,737 But anecdotes. 219 00:12:51,038 --> 00:12:52,626 So you mean, like.. 220 00:12:53,591 --> 00:12:55,524 It could be anything, really. 221 00:12:55,699 --> 00:12:57,972 I was in his classroom on Tuesday 222 00:12:57,984 --> 00:13:00,800 and he, and Emily, and Michelle 223 00:13:01,015 --> 00:13:03,979 were creating their own fairy tale 224 00:13:03,990 --> 00:13:05,681 this enchanted forest. 225 00:13:05,715 --> 00:13:08,373 And they'd made trees 226 00:13:08,408 --> 00:13:10,168 out of chairs and pillows 227 00:13:10,203 --> 00:13:11,860 and, and Jake.. 228 00:13:11,894 --> 00:13:13,839 Jake was this princess 229 00:13:13,850 --> 00:13:15,437 who didn't know she was a princess. 230 00:13:15,448 --> 00:13:18,934 And Emily was the witch who was keeping her locked up 231 00:13:18,945 --> 00:13:23,190 and Michelle was somebody's helper or something, but.. 232 00:13:24,665 --> 00:13:26,564 Anyway, it was really Jake.. 233 00:13:27,599 --> 00:13:29,912 ...who was the ringleader. 234 00:13:29,947 --> 00:13:32,397 You -- you think talking about that would.. 235 00:13:32,432 --> 00:13:33,699 I -- I mean, I'm -- I'm sure you're right 236 00:13:33,709 --> 00:13:35,780 I just wanna make sure that I understand. 237 00:13:35,815 --> 00:13:38,679 Well, for one thing, someone's gonna read this 238 00:13:38,714 --> 00:13:40,267 and then they're gonna meet Jake. 239 00:13:40,302 --> 00:13:42,545 And it is always a good sign 240 00:13:42,580 --> 00:13:44,893 when parents seem to really know their kids 241 00:13:44,927 --> 00:13:46,584 which, of course, you do. 242 00:13:46,618 --> 00:13:48,758 - Right. - But there's sort of a.. 243 00:13:48,793 --> 00:13:52,417 A big part of his personality that you don't even mention. 244 00:13:52,452 --> 00:13:53,452 Right? 245 00:13:54,156 --> 00:13:55,445 Here's the second thing. 246 00:13:55,558 --> 00:13:57,284 The numbers are ridiculous. 247 00:13:57,319 --> 00:13:59,657 Especially when it comes to which families 248 00:13:59,668 --> 00:14:01,590 they're gonna help financially. 249 00:14:02,082 --> 00:14:03,766 But what you have to remember is 250 00:14:03,777 --> 00:14:05,468 everybody wants diversity. 251 00:14:06,272 --> 00:14:07,825 Mm-hmm. 252 00:14:07,985 --> 00:14:10,504 Let's be honest, Jake.. 253 00:14:11,781 --> 00:14:14,301 ...he's, he's very special. 254 00:14:14,336 --> 00:14:16,890 And believe me, this is the part of my job I hate the most 255 00:14:16,925 --> 00:14:19,118 this, this strategizing. 256 00:14:19,402 --> 00:14:20,887 But I really think that 257 00:14:20,960 --> 00:14:23,411 this is a card you could play. 258 00:14:24,518 --> 00:14:25,876 That's all. 259 00:14:26,199 --> 00:14:28,337 Not to mention, you want him to be somewhere 260 00:14:28,350 --> 00:14:30,041 he can thrive, right? 261 00:14:36,927 --> 00:14:38,721 And the prince fell.. 262 00:14:39,948 --> 00:14:41,052 Standing on.. 263 00:14:41,087 --> 00:14:43,891 Look what I made. I made a base for it. 264 00:14:43,902 --> 00:14:45,943 All right. So it's all about progression, right? 265 00:14:45,954 --> 00:14:47,634 It's like you have to have the right story. 266 00:14:47,645 --> 00:14:49,889 So this is my pulled-together 267 00:14:49,923 --> 00:14:51,407 you-don't-have-to-worry- about-me 268 00:14:51,442 --> 00:14:55,411 because-I'm-a-modern- independent-working-woman picture. 269 00:14:55,446 --> 00:14:56,688 - Right? - Mm-hm, very slick. 270 00:14:56,723 --> 00:14:58,138 - Yeah. - Thank you. 271 00:14:58,173 --> 00:15:01,521 And then this one, which is loving-mommy.. 272 00:15:01,555 --> 00:15:03,316 Loving-mommy, yes-I-have-a-kid 273 00:15:03,350 --> 00:15:04,696 and-if-that-freaks-you-out 274 00:15:04,731 --> 00:15:07,113 well-too-bad-'cause-I'm-not- gonna-apologize-about-it.. 275 00:15:07,147 --> 00:15:08,528 You're sort of pimping him out. 276 00:15:08,562 --> 00:15:10,737 - Stop! No, I'm not! - W -- wait. 277 00:15:10,771 --> 00:15:12,221 Wait. Show him the message. 278 00:15:12,256 --> 00:15:14,189 Sanjay, come on, baby. It's that time. 279 00:15:14,223 --> 00:15:15,459 We're not done yet. 280 00:15:15,470 --> 00:15:16,748 Right, okay. 281 00:15:16,950 --> 00:15:20,694 "Wowza, Amal. You are truly an exotic beauty. 282 00:15:20,848 --> 00:15:23,428 "And your English is so impressive. 283 00:15:23,439 --> 00:15:25,959 "Maybe we could go for a ride sometime. 284 00:15:25,994 --> 00:15:28,686 No magic carpet here, but I do have a Prius." 285 00:15:28,697 --> 00:15:30,699 - What is wrong with people? - Right? I know. 286 00:15:30,826 --> 00:15:32,186 And that's not even the half of it. 287 00:15:32,207 --> 00:15:33,553 Come on, baby, I'm not.. 288 00:15:33,587 --> 00:15:35,003 Where did they.. 289 00:15:35,037 --> 00:15:36,960 - Oh, what in the world? I'm so sorry. - No, no, no. 290 00:15:36,970 --> 00:15:38,720 - I got it. This is all Jake. - Are you sure? 291 00:15:38,730 --> 00:15:40,042 - Yes. - Let me take that. 292 00:15:40,077 --> 00:15:41,616 Thank you. Okay, bye. 293 00:15:41,673 --> 00:15:43,778 Sanjay, come on! Mommy's had a long day. 294 00:15:43,789 --> 00:15:46,827 - He can't, he can't leave. - I have to do this first. 295 00:15:59,403 --> 00:16:01,647 You really don't think it's weird? 296 00:16:01,658 --> 00:16:02,798 About Judy? 297 00:16:05,481 --> 00:16:06,551 I don't know. 298 00:16:06,586 --> 00:16:10,596 I mean, she was strategizing, right? 299 00:16:10,759 --> 00:16:12,443 Yeah, no. The strategizing, I get. 300 00:16:12,454 --> 00:16:13,627 But the way she was talking 301 00:16:13,662 --> 00:16:15,043 it was just a little.. 302 00:16:16,492 --> 00:16:18,115 I don't know. 303 00:16:21,877 --> 00:16:24,017 I mean, he does like to play dress-up. 304 00:16:24,052 --> 00:16:25,605 That's not news. 305 00:16:25,639 --> 00:16:27,020 Not that I care, obviously 306 00:16:27,031 --> 00:16:31,096 but he's not exactly Johnny Basketball. 307 00:16:31,107 --> 00:16:32,453 Johnny what? 308 00:16:32,629 --> 00:16:33,752 You know. 309 00:16:34,129 --> 00:16:35,647 That's not an expression. 310 00:16:35,658 --> 00:16:38,143 I know it's not, I'm just saying. 311 00:16:39,412 --> 00:16:43,209 What's your day like tomorrow? I have a break around noon. 312 00:16:43,243 --> 00:16:46,488 I go into Legal Aid till 3:00, then pick up Jake. 313 00:16:50,382 --> 00:16:53,040 - You okay? - Yeah. Yeah, of course. 314 00:17:16,552 --> 00:17:17,864 Laurel! Laurel! 315 00:17:17,898 --> 00:17:20,119 - Hi, Greg. - Hey, listen, um.. 316 00:17:20,151 --> 00:17:21,393 I've been meaning to mention 317 00:17:21,406 --> 00:17:22,639 and maybe you've already noticed it 318 00:17:22,649 --> 00:17:25,238 but the walls here are a little.. 319 00:17:28,793 --> 00:17:31,865 And I.. Most of my patients, they're pretty tame. 320 00:17:31,876 --> 00:17:34,879 But you know, if you ever, if there's a noise issue, or.. 321 00:17:34,890 --> 00:17:38,737 Oh! You're so sweet! I haven't even noticed. 322 00:17:38,748 --> 00:17:40,815 Oh, and I wouldn't want you to worry about that. 323 00:17:40,834 --> 00:17:42,767 I know, in my own work 324 00:17:42,778 --> 00:17:45,884 how important vocalizing can be. 325 00:17:46,030 --> 00:17:47,971 I find it's so helpful in releasing 326 00:17:47,982 --> 00:17:50,053 all kinds of emotional build-up. 327 00:17:50,064 --> 00:17:52,135 I'm sure you're familiar with Arthur Janov? 328 00:17:54,816 --> 00:17:56,542 It's scream therapy. 329 00:17:56,702 --> 00:17:57,702 It's what? 330 00:17:57,735 --> 00:17:59,116 It.. Janov. 331 00:17:59,181 --> 00:18:01,597 He was big in the '60s, it was all about 332 00:18:01,632 --> 00:18:05,014 finding your primal scream and releasing it into the world. 333 00:18:05,434 --> 00:18:06,814 Jesus. 334 00:18:06,825 --> 00:18:08,501 Yeah, and apparently this is, like, her niche, you know. 335 00:18:08,511 --> 00:18:10,409 So, which means this is not going to stop. 336 00:18:12,263 --> 00:18:15,226 - Hello? - Yeah, sorry. I just.. 337 00:18:15,651 --> 00:18:18,723 It's not his personality. I think that's what bugged me. 338 00:18:18,734 --> 00:18:19,873 What? 339 00:18:20,047 --> 00:18:21,566 About Judy, she, she was acting 340 00:18:21,617 --> 00:18:22,963 like I'd failed to mention 341 00:18:22,998 --> 00:18:25,173 some deep-seated part of him, and it's like.. 342 00:18:25,207 --> 00:18:26,829 Yeah, he likes fairy tales 343 00:18:26,864 --> 00:18:29,867 but maybe that's not the most critical thing worth mentioning. 344 00:18:29,901 --> 00:18:32,697 He knows all 50 states, he's already started reading. 345 00:18:32,732 --> 00:18:34,389 How many kids his age are reading? 346 00:18:34,423 --> 00:18:36,598 Hey, Ally, Ally, okay, I love you 347 00:18:36,632 --> 00:18:38,393 but I think that you're fixating. 348 00:18:38,427 --> 00:18:40,947 No, I'm not fixating! I just think he should get a clean slate. 349 00:18:40,981 --> 00:18:43,743 I don't wanna send him off to kindergarten labeled as -- 350 00:18:43,777 --> 00:18:45,469 I don't think anyone's trying to label him. 351 00:18:45,503 --> 00:18:48,403 You know, Ally, Judy loves Jake. Judy loves you. 352 00:18:48,437 --> 00:18:50,301 She's on your side, all right? 353 00:18:50,336 --> 00:18:52,131 She's not, you know, your mother. 354 00:18:53,557 --> 00:18:55,421 Hey. Hey, I was kidding. 355 00:18:57,517 --> 00:18:59,071 No, it's fine. Um.. 356 00:18:59,144 --> 00:19:00,144 Ally.. 357 00:19:01,278 --> 00:19:03,314 Look, I gotta go. Uh.. 358 00:19:03,349 --> 00:19:04,798 Uh -- uh, I love you. 359 00:19:26,620 --> 00:19:27,897 Nipples? 360 00:19:28,041 --> 00:19:29,663 I wanna touch your nipple. 361 00:19:40,317 --> 00:19:42,146 What if we pitched it like.. 362 00:19:43,458 --> 00:19:45,667 ...Jake is not limited 363 00:19:45,701 --> 00:19:48,649 to trucks, or whatever. 364 00:19:49,607 --> 00:19:53,231 Uh, he likes all sorts of toys and games. 365 00:19:53,242 --> 00:19:55,451 Equal opportunity. 366 00:19:55,642 --> 00:19:59,094 Yeah. "Our son, he walks into a Toys"R"Us 367 00:19:59,170 --> 00:20:01,448 "and he does not discriminate 368 00:20:01,498 --> 00:20:05,709 on the basis of perceived gender norms." 369 00:20:07,404 --> 00:20:09,544 That's actually not that bad. 370 00:20:09,695 --> 00:20:12,042 But that's just an idea. We don't have to.. 371 00:20:17,146 --> 00:20:18,631 Oh, my God. 372 00:20:19,804 --> 00:20:21,220 Ally.. 373 00:20:22,807 --> 00:20:24,084 What's wrong? 374 00:20:24,878 --> 00:20:26,230 Whoa, whoa. 375 00:20:26,375 --> 00:20:27,859 You're not happy? 376 00:20:27,870 --> 00:20:30,735 - No, no, of course, I'm happy. - Hey, hey. 377 00:20:35,188 --> 00:20:37,880 I just don't.. I don't want to assume. 378 00:20:38,306 --> 00:20:40,963 No. Of course not. And we won't. 379 00:20:42,865 --> 00:20:45,281 But with Jake, everything was fine. 380 00:20:46,650 --> 00:20:48,238 It's not a pattern. 381 00:20:57,428 --> 00:21:00,171 No, it's just, I, I.. 382 00:21:00,397 --> 00:21:04,021 I -- I guess I didn't think it would happen so fast. 383 00:21:07,024 --> 00:21:08,819 Well, I am sorry 384 00:21:08,853 --> 00:21:11,408 that I'm so damn virile. 385 00:21:12,616 --> 00:21:14,445 I don't -- I don't know what else to say 386 00:21:14,480 --> 00:21:16,861 besides that, though, I am sorry. 387 00:21:24,938 --> 00:21:27,182 All right, slow down there. 388 00:21:27,216 --> 00:21:29,218 Bye.. Thank you. 389 00:21:47,927 --> 00:21:49,963 This is a very dressed-up dress. 390 00:21:56,176 --> 00:21:58,144 We believe it's our job 391 00:21:58,178 --> 00:22:01,320 to harness every student's unique potential. 392 00:22:04,944 --> 00:22:06,877 Nurturing intellectual curiosity. 393 00:22:06,911 --> 00:22:08,050 Critical thinking. 394 00:22:08,085 --> 00:22:09,362 Problem-solving. 395 00:22:09,397 --> 00:22:10,743 Artistic expression. 396 00:22:19,268 --> 00:22:21,262 Jake! Breakfast! 397 00:22:21,273 --> 00:22:23,574 Socks make my feet sticky! 398 00:22:23,585 --> 00:22:26,346 Hey, buddy. We're running late. 399 00:22:26,828 --> 00:22:29,309 We do give priority to siblings. 400 00:22:29,328 --> 00:22:31,236 My wife is on a ton of boards. 401 00:22:31,387 --> 00:22:34,183 I don't know if that's helpful, or.. 402 00:22:34,422 --> 00:22:36,078 You know, it's impossible to predict 403 00:22:36,113 --> 00:22:38,684 but on average, it's approximately 400. 404 00:22:38,695 --> 00:22:39,972 Six hundred. 405 00:22:40,025 --> 00:22:41,510 Nine hundred. 406 00:22:41,521 --> 00:22:44,356 Thirty-six thousand children applied for a spot 407 00:22:44,367 --> 00:22:47,481 in one of the city's magnet programs last year. 408 00:22:48,305 --> 00:22:50,056 In a few weeks, we'll visit some new schools. 409 00:22:50,066 --> 00:22:52,724 And you'll play with some kids and meet some teachers 410 00:22:52,735 --> 00:22:54,495 and you should just be yourself. 411 00:22:54,506 --> 00:22:56,439 And that's all that matters, okay? 412 00:22:56,450 --> 00:22:58,176 So it's no big deal at all. 413 00:22:58,187 --> 00:23:00,016 - Yeah. - No biggie. 414 00:23:00,043 --> 00:23:02,356 You can have a fruit roll-up later, if you want. 415 00:23:02,367 --> 00:23:04,921 - Yeah. - Except they're kinda sticky. 416 00:23:11,626 --> 00:23:12,754 Hello? 417 00:23:13,635 --> 00:23:15,361 Wheeler, yeah. 418 00:23:15,395 --> 00:23:18,090 W-H-E-E-L-E-R. 419 00:23:18,478 --> 00:23:19,927 And my son is Jake. 420 00:23:23,471 --> 00:23:25,576 Preschools will receive feedback in December. 421 00:23:27,475 --> 00:23:29,627 Of course, we wish we had room 422 00:23:29,663 --> 00:23:31,369 for all your little angels. 423 00:23:32,463 --> 00:23:34,160 But the numbers are what they are. 424 00:23:34,171 --> 00:23:35,137 The numbers are what they are. 425 00:23:35,172 --> 00:23:36,415 The numbers are what they are. 426 00:23:56,974 --> 00:23:59,058 Ooh, look at that. What is that? 427 00:23:59,092 --> 00:24:00,646 - Is that for us? - Yes! 428 00:24:00,680 --> 00:24:02,026 No, I did that. 429 00:24:02,061 --> 00:24:03,856 Uh, Le -- let me try. 430 00:24:04,840 --> 00:24:05,955 - That's what I clicked on. - No. 431 00:24:05,965 --> 00:24:07,061 I think it's the one under there. 432 00:24:07,071 --> 00:24:09,026 - I don't know. - I can't deal with this.. 433 00:24:09,037 --> 00:24:10,107 There. 434 00:24:11,160 --> 00:24:12,195 Right? 435 00:24:28,743 --> 00:24:30,987 I mean, it's insane! 436 00:24:32,280 --> 00:24:36,526 Between the down-regs and the stims 437 00:24:36,716 --> 00:24:39,013 trigger shots, blood samples 438 00:24:39,024 --> 00:24:41,855 not to mention anesthetic for egg retrieval. 439 00:24:41,997 --> 00:24:44,344 All in all, you're probably stabbed 440 00:24:44,379 --> 00:24:47,045 about 75 times per cycle. 441 00:24:47,447 --> 00:24:50,208 And most of the stabbing, you're doing to yourself. 442 00:24:50,320 --> 00:24:52,840 I had this whole kit at the office. 443 00:24:53,008 --> 00:24:54,941 They say if you're squeamish about needles 444 00:24:54,976 --> 00:24:57,944 IVF will either cure you or break you. 445 00:24:58,527 --> 00:25:00,011 I, actually.. 446 00:25:03,881 --> 00:25:05,456 That doesn't bother you? 447 00:25:05,467 --> 00:25:08,441 - You mean.. - The banshee next door. 448 00:25:17,713 --> 00:25:19,197 What about Ben? 449 00:25:19,256 --> 00:25:20,533 What about him? 450 00:25:20,795 --> 00:25:22,451 Was he supportive? 451 00:25:22,486 --> 00:25:24,823 Just.. In all this. 452 00:25:27,077 --> 00:25:28,665 We've got a few minutes. 453 00:25:30,202 --> 00:25:31,618 He'd call the office. 454 00:25:32,634 --> 00:25:34,360 Constantly checking in. 455 00:25:35,141 --> 00:25:37,536 You know, he'd e-mail me these fertility blogs. 456 00:25:37,570 --> 00:25:39,089 What to eat, what not to eat. 457 00:25:39,123 --> 00:25:40,711 That sounds like a lot of pressure. 458 00:25:41,712 --> 00:25:42,989 You have kids? 459 00:25:44,094 --> 00:25:45,371 Yeah. One. 460 00:25:46,447 --> 00:25:49,553 It's like when guys say, "We're pregnant!" 461 00:25:49,736 --> 00:25:51,151 You know? 462 00:25:51,303 --> 00:25:54,962 Like, wow! Equality, great! 463 00:25:55,036 --> 00:25:57,625 But actually you're not, so maybe you could just.. 464 00:25:58,845 --> 00:26:00,260 ...fuck off a little bit? 465 00:26:04,336 --> 00:26:07,788 Ally, come on, you're being ridiculous. 466 00:26:07,862 --> 00:26:09,795 I'm fine. You've got clients. 467 00:26:09,947 --> 00:26:12,881 So, what? So, I'll reschedule. 468 00:26:12,916 --> 00:26:15,021 It's his first interview. This is important. 469 00:26:15,056 --> 00:26:16,575 - He's gonna be nervous. - Exactly. 470 00:26:16,609 --> 00:26:17,704 You know, I'm sorry, but what happens 471 00:26:17,714 --> 00:26:19,094 if you puke on the train? 472 00:26:19,129 --> 00:26:20,993 You think that's gonna put him in a good mood? 473 00:26:22,719 --> 00:26:24,444 All right, Th -- there's some apple slices 474 00:26:24,479 --> 00:26:25,504 with peanut butter in the kitchen. 475 00:26:25,514 --> 00:26:26,674 Make sure he eats on the way. 476 00:26:29,864 --> 00:26:31,624 Yeah, but "The Little Mermaid's" 477 00:26:31,659 --> 00:26:33,592 my favorite movie. 478 00:26:33,626 --> 00:26:34,626 Mm-hmm. 479 00:26:42,359 --> 00:26:43,912 - Here you go. - Thank you very much. 480 00:26:43,947 --> 00:26:45,845 Hey, Jake, let's go over here. 481 00:26:52,035 --> 00:26:53,139 First time? 482 00:26:54,698 --> 00:26:55,699 Yeah. 483 00:26:56,680 --> 00:26:59,130 At our last one, they left the door open 484 00:26:59,235 --> 00:27:00,823 so I could peek in. 485 00:27:00,834 --> 00:27:03,035 And I saw my son was drawing a picture 486 00:27:03,069 --> 00:27:05,658 and I thought, "That's good, that's good," right? 487 00:27:05,693 --> 00:27:08,868 So the teacher comes over and says, "Hey, what's that?" 488 00:27:08,903 --> 00:27:10,490 And he said, "A gun." 489 00:27:14,767 --> 00:27:16,976 Well, he can't fix America, huh? 490 00:27:16,987 --> 00:27:18,954 No, he can't. 491 00:27:20,553 --> 00:27:21,692 Mr. Wheeler? 492 00:27:22,748 --> 00:27:24,197 Can I have a word with you? 493 00:27:27,884 --> 00:27:29,615 Alexandra, it's your mother. 494 00:27:29,626 --> 00:27:32,079 I haven't heard from you in over a week. 495 00:27:32,098 --> 00:27:33,686 Call me old-fashioned, but I don't think 496 00:27:33,721 --> 00:27:36,313 a simple phone call is so much to ask. 497 00:27:36,324 --> 00:27:38,292 An emoji does not count. 498 00:27:38,432 --> 00:27:40,607 In any case, listen, I just talked to your brother 499 00:27:40,680 --> 00:27:43,061 and Kimmie's got a piano recital on the 11th. 500 00:27:43,144 --> 00:27:45,318 I don't know if you've heard her play recently 501 00:27:45,353 --> 00:27:48,356 but she's really getting very good. 502 00:27:48,390 --> 00:27:51,014 It's amazing, frankly, the discipline at her age. 503 00:27:51,048 --> 00:27:53,154 I thought it might be nice for Jake to see. 504 00:27:53,188 --> 00:27:55,087 It might inspire him. Who knows? 505 00:27:55,121 --> 00:27:57,986 Oh, have you set a date for his birthday party yet? 506 00:27:58,021 --> 00:28:00,215 I don't want a situation like last year. 507 00:28:00,226 --> 00:28:03,057 It really broke my heart. So call me, I'm at the office. 508 00:28:03,068 --> 00:28:05,346 Be here all day. Remember what that's like? 509 00:28:23,805 --> 00:28:25,634 Of course, it's ridiculous. 510 00:28:25,669 --> 00:28:27,834 - I'm not saying it's not. - I think "Abusive" was the word you used. 511 00:28:27,844 --> 00:28:30,709 You said whoever had the bright idea to evaluate toddlers 512 00:28:30,743 --> 00:28:32,459 using test scores deserves a special place in hell. 513 00:28:32,469 --> 00:28:34,091 But he got a 96! 514 00:28:35,299 --> 00:28:36,680 Ou -- out of 100? 515 00:28:36,715 --> 00:28:37,809 Yeah, well, I mean, it's percentile 516 00:28:37,819 --> 00:28:39,165 so you can't get higher than 99. 517 00:28:39,200 --> 00:28:41,064 - What is all this? - Look, look. Okay, look. 518 00:28:41,098 --> 00:28:42,859 - So they break it down. Right? - Mm-hmm. 519 00:28:42,893 --> 00:28:44,757 There's verbal ability, spatial relations. 520 00:28:44,792 --> 00:28:46,392 - Fine motor skills. - Fine motor skills? 521 00:28:46,414 --> 00:28:47,439 Yeah, like how he holds a pencil. 522 00:28:47,449 --> 00:28:48,729 And I was worried about that too 523 00:28:48,761 --> 00:28:50,477 'cause he's left-handed, which, I mean, obviously 524 00:28:50,487 --> 00:28:51,892 they can't discriminate, but his form -- 525 00:28:51,902 --> 00:28:53,766 - You are out of your mind. - Okay, okay, look. 526 00:28:53,801 --> 00:28:56,691 Lo -- look at the narrative. 527 00:28:57,035 --> 00:29:00,754 - "Jake was enthusiastic and curious.. - Enthusiastic. 528 00:29:00,773 --> 00:29:03,500 "And proved remarkably focused on the task at hand. 529 00:29:03,534 --> 00:29:06,123 "With a keen eye, he was able to group pictures 530 00:29:06,158 --> 00:29:08,850 "based on common properties copying several rows of symbols 531 00:29:08,885 --> 00:29:10,117 - to match a code." - What the fuck! 532 00:29:10,127 --> 00:29:12,647 But it's like shapes and things, relax. Okay. 533 00:29:12,681 --> 00:29:14,720 Wait, wait, wait, this is my favorite part. 534 00:29:14,731 --> 00:29:16,595 "Using an unconventional 535 00:29:16,606 --> 00:29:19,574 "but still effective left-handed grip. 536 00:29:19,585 --> 00:29:21,966 A delight to work with." 537 00:29:24,512 --> 00:29:25,512 What's wrong? 538 00:29:27,524 --> 00:29:28,663 I -- I don't understand. 539 00:29:28,697 --> 00:29:30,976 I guess Jake had made friends 540 00:29:31,010 --> 00:29:32,771 with one of the girls in his group 541 00:29:32,805 --> 00:29:34,842 and one of the boys overheard 542 00:29:34,876 --> 00:29:35,843 what they were talking about. 543 00:29:35,877 --> 00:29:37,672 And, uh, that boy 544 00:29:37,706 --> 00:29:39,156 told some other boy 545 00:29:39,191 --> 00:29:42,988 who told some other boy, who started teasing Jake. 546 00:29:43,022 --> 00:29:44,852 - What were they saying? - I don't know. 547 00:29:44,886 --> 00:29:48,027 But apparently before the teacher could intervene 548 00:29:48,062 --> 00:29:49,339 things got physical. 549 00:29:49,373 --> 00:29:50,640 They started shoving each other. 550 00:29:50,650 --> 00:29:52,169 - I think Jake fell down. - Jesus. 551 00:29:52,204 --> 00:29:53,826 Yeah, and then I guess Jake shoved 552 00:29:53,861 --> 00:29:55,379 the other kid back, I.. 553 00:29:55,414 --> 00:29:56,774 And then I guess he started crying. 554 00:29:56,795 --> 00:29:58,510 But -- but did you tell them he's not like that? 555 00:29:58,520 --> 00:30:00,143 When has he ever shoved anyone? 556 00:30:00,177 --> 00:30:01,938 They knew that he was being teased, okay? 557 00:30:01,972 --> 00:30:04,733 The man was really nice about it. I.. 558 00:30:04,768 --> 00:30:06,879 I actually think he was a little embarrassed. 559 00:30:06,890 --> 00:30:08,484 - Why? - Well.. 560 00:30:09,279 --> 00:30:11,626 He kept dancing around what had happened 561 00:30:11,637 --> 00:30:13,673 talking about Jake's creative role-play 562 00:30:13,708 --> 00:30:16,262 or whatever, and then suddenly, I realized 563 00:30:16,297 --> 00:30:18,122 Oh, God, this guy 564 00:30:18,145 --> 00:30:20,301 doesn't know how to tell me that my son was 565 00:30:20,335 --> 00:30:23,649 uh, well, he was the Little Mermaid, it turns out. 566 00:30:23,683 --> 00:30:25,478 Damn this thing. 567 00:30:25,513 --> 00:30:26,953 Anyway, once it was over, the teacher 568 00:30:26,963 --> 00:30:28,343 she sat both of them down. 569 00:30:28,378 --> 00:30:30,483 They had a talk about respectful behavior. 570 00:30:30,518 --> 00:30:32,727 And, uh, she encouraged Jake to use 571 00:30:32,761 --> 00:30:34,522 his words if he was angry. 572 00:30:36,825 --> 00:30:38,146 He couldn't talk. 573 00:30:38,181 --> 00:30:39,941 - No, I guess not. - No, no, no. 574 00:30:39,976 --> 00:30:42,116 I -- I mean, the Little Mermaid loses her voice. 575 00:30:42,150 --> 00:30:44,773 She can't talk for, like, half the movie. 576 00:30:44,941 --> 00:30:46,701 Y -- you never thought of that? 577 00:30:48,570 --> 00:30:50,607 Well, are you mad at me? 578 00:30:51,090 --> 00:30:52,712 Well.. 579 00:30:52,747 --> 00:30:54,645 Now they're gonna think he's got anger issues 580 00:30:54,680 --> 00:30:56,682 or doesn't know how to communicate his feelings. 581 00:30:56,716 --> 00:30:59,167 I should have taken him. 582 00:30:59,202 --> 00:31:01,721 - Well, thanks. - No, I -- I'm not saying it's your fault. 583 00:31:01,756 --> 00:31:04,138 - 'Cause it's not. - Well, it's a red flag. 584 00:31:04,172 --> 00:31:06,519 Okay? Uh, they're looking for anything. 585 00:31:09,281 --> 00:31:10,558 Shit. 586 00:31:12,974 --> 00:31:15,287 Now, somehow, I was a little more concerned about Jake 587 00:31:15,321 --> 00:31:16,909 than how it might affect his chances. 588 00:31:16,944 --> 00:31:18,869 - Excuse me? - I just.. 589 00:31:18,994 --> 00:31:20,791 Maybe we've got things a little backwards here. 590 00:31:20,801 --> 00:31:21,904 Hey, hey, that is not fair. 591 00:31:21,914 --> 00:31:24,234 Being concerned for his chances is being concerned for Jake. 592 00:31:24,244 --> 00:31:25,307 Yeah, I realized that. 593 00:31:25,331 --> 00:31:27,023 And frankly, if you're worried about him 594 00:31:27,057 --> 00:31:29,094 being teased at Sibley Hall 595 00:31:29,128 --> 00:31:30,775 maybe you ought to think about what it'd be like for him 596 00:31:30,785 --> 00:31:33,029 some place where the teacher's got 40 kids 597 00:31:33,063 --> 00:31:34,927 crammed into a class half the size. 598 00:31:34,962 --> 00:31:36,091 You think this won't happen again? 599 00:31:36,101 --> 00:31:37,206 Okay, fine. 600 00:31:37,766 --> 00:31:40,079 So don't tell me I'm not concerned about Jake. 601 00:32:56,043 --> 00:32:58,666 I mean.. Okay, I'm not a crazy mom, Alex. 602 00:32:58,700 --> 00:33:00,357 I don't want to hoard him. 603 00:33:00,392 --> 00:33:02,601 I want him to have his father in his life 604 00:33:02,635 --> 00:33:05,190 but he needs routine right now. 605 00:33:05,224 --> 00:33:07,951 - It's so important at this age. - Of course. 606 00:33:07,986 --> 00:33:10,022 I mean, honestly, I shouldn't even complain. 607 00:33:10,057 --> 00:33:11,265 It's.. 608 00:33:11,299 --> 00:33:15,407 It's a good thing that he wants to be involved. I just.. 609 00:33:15,441 --> 00:33:17,305 I honestly think sometimes it's the lawyers 610 00:33:17,340 --> 00:33:19,031 that make it all impossible. 611 00:33:20,446 --> 00:33:23,415 - No offense. - No, I'm sure you're right. 612 00:33:26,349 --> 00:33:28,489 - You ladies need any help? - Yes, I do. 613 00:33:28,523 --> 00:33:30,594 I was looking at the Power Rangers costumes 614 00:33:30,629 --> 00:33:32,251 and I couldn't see anything in red. 615 00:33:32,286 --> 00:33:34,529 My son's like... yay high. 616 00:33:34,564 --> 00:33:36,807 We may be sold out of that color. I can check. 617 00:33:36,842 --> 00:33:39,017 Oh, no, no, you see, it's.. 618 00:33:39,051 --> 00:33:40,915 It really has to be red. 619 00:33:40,949 --> 00:33:42,606 - Okay. - Yeah, okay. 620 00:33:43,849 --> 00:33:45,782 So, what does Jake wanna be? Hm? 621 00:33:46,886 --> 00:33:48,371 Oh, you know Jake. 622 00:33:48,405 --> 00:33:51,193 He has a different idea every other day. 623 00:33:51,204 --> 00:33:53,413 I'll just grab a few options. 624 00:33:53,438 --> 00:33:55,361 - Yeah, smart. - Miss? 625 00:33:55,495 --> 00:33:58,854 Oh, my God, my hero! Yes! You found it! 626 00:33:59,828 --> 00:34:04,695 Hey, Teresa, can you do a price check on baby Frankenstein kit. Thanks. 627 00:34:20,996 --> 00:34:22,859 Maybe we should explain to him 628 00:34:22,870 --> 00:34:25,871 why Rapunzel's not a good idea. 629 00:34:26,940 --> 00:34:28,527 I just think.. 630 00:34:30,309 --> 00:34:33,278 What if someone says something? Or even a funny look? 631 00:34:33,312 --> 00:34:34,762 I know. 632 00:34:37,385 --> 00:34:39,491 It is our job to protect him. 633 00:34:42,095 --> 00:34:43,407 Meredith? 634 00:34:48,224 --> 00:34:49,535 You really don't have to stay. 635 00:35:03,687 --> 00:35:05,965 There's a good chance he'll just forget. 636 00:35:08,175 --> 00:35:10,901 Why? Why can't I be Rapunzel? 637 00:35:10,936 --> 00:35:12,731 Did you see the pirate? It's awesome. 638 00:35:12,765 --> 00:35:15,320 - It's got these tassels. - No! No! 639 00:35:15,354 --> 00:35:17,839 Hey, buddy, come on. Mommy's trying really hard.. 640 00:35:18,875 --> 00:35:20,808 Jake. You haven't even looked. 641 00:35:20,842 --> 00:35:22,120 You promised me! 642 00:35:23,431 --> 00:35:24,881 - Trick or treat! - Trick or treat. 643 00:35:24,915 --> 00:35:26,504 I hate you! 644 00:35:26,515 --> 00:35:28,621 Jake, I need you to calm down. 645 00:35:28,988 --> 00:35:32,337 - Your ideas are lazy! - Just calm down for one second. 646 00:35:32,371 --> 00:35:33,510 Happy Halloween. 647 00:35:33,545 --> 00:35:35,616 I want! I want! I want! I want! 648 00:36:05,508 --> 00:36:06,535 No. 649 00:36:07,165 --> 00:36:09,308 He was Ben. 650 00:36:09,709 --> 00:36:12,989 He just had the face of the man from the bodega. 651 00:36:13,094 --> 00:36:17,269 Like the man from the bodega was playing Ben in my dream. 652 00:36:18,141 --> 00:36:19,141 Okay. 653 00:36:19,453 --> 00:36:21,964 And we get to the top of the mountain 654 00:36:22,142 --> 00:36:25,519 and the snaps on my pack pop off 655 00:36:25,530 --> 00:36:28,705 and all of my gear just falls off. 656 00:36:28,797 --> 00:36:30,143 Just rolling down this ravine. 657 00:36:30,154 --> 00:36:32,972 And I'm watching it go, and I know this is bad 658 00:36:32,983 --> 00:36:34,088 but for some reason 659 00:36:34,122 --> 00:36:36,019 I just start laughing. 660 00:36:36,731 --> 00:36:38,940 So I guess I'm wondering, what does that mean? 661 00:36:41,509 --> 00:36:44,024 - Well, that depends. - Yeah, I know. 662 00:36:44,035 --> 00:36:46,607 I'm just wondering what you think it means. 663 00:36:46,618 --> 00:36:48,689 I mean, just give me your two cents. 664 00:36:49,593 --> 00:36:51,975 I mean, isn't that why we're here? 665 00:36:54,522 --> 00:36:57,145 I think that's less important than your own -- 666 00:36:57,180 --> 00:36:59,665 Oh, my God. I'm sorry, are you always like this? 667 00:36:59,676 --> 00:37:01,298 Or just here? 668 00:37:02,615 --> 00:37:05,376 I'm sorry. I think we should end early today. 669 00:37:07,675 --> 00:37:09,664 You're allowed to feel frustrated. 670 00:37:09,675 --> 00:37:11,033 Yeah, I know I'm allowed. 671 00:37:11,044 --> 00:37:13,067 With me, I mean. 672 00:37:19,451 --> 00:37:21,902 What am I... like? 673 00:37:25,102 --> 00:37:26,344 Switzerland. 674 00:37:27,984 --> 00:37:31,803 That's what Ben and I... call you. 675 00:37:32,526 --> 00:37:34,586 'Cause when I first started coming 676 00:37:34,597 --> 00:37:36,875 he would always ask me whose side you were on. 677 00:37:37,910 --> 00:37:39,636 I told him.. 678 00:37:39,671 --> 00:37:41,431 ...you don't like taking sides. 679 00:37:59,449 --> 00:38:00,761 Whoa! Slow down, boys. 680 00:38:21,057 --> 00:38:24,578 - Greg! Nice to see you. - Oh, hey. Hi. 681 00:38:24,612 --> 00:38:26,856 I just.. I -- I got here early today 682 00:38:26,890 --> 00:38:28,340 so I figured I would just 683 00:38:28,375 --> 00:38:29,469 I don't know, check in and see 684 00:38:29,479 --> 00:38:30,998 if there were any updates. 685 00:38:31,032 --> 00:38:33,207 The truth is, I haven't talked to Bethany this week 686 00:38:33,241 --> 00:38:35,105 but we spoke on Friday, and she said 687 00:38:35,140 --> 00:38:38,108 that Jake had actually been a little better. 688 00:38:38,143 --> 00:38:39,317 "Better?" 689 00:38:39,351 --> 00:38:42,320 I -- I just meant the schools. 690 00:38:42,354 --> 00:38:44,012 Oh. 691 00:38:44,047 --> 00:38:45,760 Uh, wha -- what's up with Bethany? 692 00:38:45,771 --> 00:38:47,670 No, there were, oh 693 00:38:47,704 --> 00:38:49,913 one or two incidents in class. 694 00:38:49,948 --> 00:38:52,882 I spoke with Alex about it briefly, over the phone. 695 00:38:53,986 --> 00:38:56,126 She didn't tell me. 696 00:38:56,161 --> 00:38:58,750 Oh, here, honey. Come on in. 697 00:39:01,612 --> 00:39:03,579 It was nothing serious. 698 00:39:03,684 --> 00:39:06,652 He's always liked doing things his own way, you know that. 699 00:39:06,664 --> 00:39:08,148 Yes. 700 00:39:08,159 --> 00:39:11,059 But lately, according to Bethany 701 00:39:11,070 --> 00:39:13,521 he's been a little more.. 702 00:39:14,785 --> 00:39:16,614 ...obsessive? 703 00:39:16,766 --> 00:39:18,975 Refusing to leave the dress-up corner 704 00:39:18,986 --> 00:39:20,781 when it's time to move on to something else. 705 00:39:20,792 --> 00:39:23,676 He'll act out the, uh 706 00:39:24,396 --> 00:39:27,261 what do you call it, the, the "Stroke Of Midnight" 707 00:39:27,295 --> 00:39:28,296 over and over again. 708 00:39:28,317 --> 00:39:30,575 - Right. Right. - "Bong, bong, bong." 709 00:39:30,609 --> 00:39:32,404 Yeah, "Wait, come back. 710 00:39:32,439 --> 00:39:33,819 I don't even know your name." 711 00:39:33,854 --> 00:39:35,925 - Ha-ha. - Exactly. 712 00:39:35,959 --> 00:39:38,272 Alex says he's been fine at home. 713 00:39:40,964 --> 00:39:42,690 No, no, no, he's just, it's.. 714 00:39:42,725 --> 00:39:44,485 He's been a handful lately. 715 00:39:44,520 --> 00:39:46,798 It's, it's normal stuff. 716 00:39:51,975 --> 00:39:53,598 Alex thinks.. 717 00:39:55,462 --> 00:39:58,168 ...that maybe we need to set, uh.. 718 00:39:58,620 --> 00:40:00,277 ...better boundaries. 719 00:40:00,398 --> 00:40:02,952 So that Jake can learn a little more self-control. 720 00:40:03,815 --> 00:40:05,199 Do you agree? 721 00:40:05,554 --> 00:40:08,129 It's just that I also know that she's not.. 722 00:40:08,992 --> 00:40:11,650 She's not totally herself right now. 723 00:40:11,685 --> 00:40:13,065 And I don't blame her, you know 724 00:40:13,100 --> 00:40:16,966 she's scheduling everything, the interviews, the tours. 725 00:40:17,000 --> 00:40:19,624 For a while there, she was nauseous every other morning. 726 00:40:19,658 --> 00:40:21,108 She's been sick? 727 00:40:23,386 --> 00:40:24,559 Oh, shit. 728 00:40:26,941 --> 00:40:28,909 - Please don't tell anyone. - I won't, I won't. 729 00:40:28,943 --> 00:40:31,083 Uh, we're not telling anyone till we're past 13 weeks. 730 00:40:31,118 --> 00:40:33,766 You know, she told people sooner last time, and then when we lost -- 731 00:40:33,776 --> 00:40:35,743 I know how hard she took it. 732 00:40:38,051 --> 00:40:41,503 I just know how much she respects you. She always has. 733 00:40:41,749 --> 00:40:44,585 And I was thinking, if you do talk to her 734 00:40:45,124 --> 00:40:48,100 that maybe... you could try 735 00:40:48,135 --> 00:40:49,895 to reassure her that nothing's wrong. 736 00:40:49,930 --> 00:40:52,864 Just that things are gonna be okay. 737 00:40:55,429 --> 00:40:58,881 I'd like to show you something. If you have a minute? 738 00:41:00,886 --> 00:41:04,130 He did these last Thursday. 739 00:41:05,877 --> 00:41:09,674 I was going to show Alex, but as long as you're here.. 740 00:41:12,711 --> 00:41:14,402 Jake did these? 741 00:41:14,437 --> 00:41:15,507 Mm-hmm. 742 00:41:18,286 --> 00:41:21,047 They don't, they don't look like his. 743 00:41:25,157 --> 00:41:27,367 I mean, I -- I get it. That's.. 744 00:41:28,777 --> 00:41:30,434 That's a lot of blood. 745 00:41:30,673 --> 00:41:33,268 Well, the blood's one thing. 746 00:41:33,836 --> 00:41:36,518 A lot of children are fascinated by it. 747 00:41:36,792 --> 00:41:38,138 And justifiably so. 748 00:41:39,393 --> 00:41:42,396 But sometimes artwork like this 749 00:41:42,430 --> 00:41:43,777 can be an opportunity. 750 00:41:43,811 --> 00:41:46,814 It can help us understand something a child 751 00:41:46,849 --> 00:41:49,783 might be having difficulty communicating. 752 00:41:57,238 --> 00:41:59,940 Do you ever see children, in your practice? 753 00:42:00,148 --> 00:42:04,463 No. Couples occasionally, but mostly individuals. Why? 754 00:42:05,799 --> 00:42:07,317 I guess it's beside the point. 755 00:42:07,352 --> 00:42:08,752 I was, uh.. 756 00:42:09,331 --> 00:42:12,748 ...just curious if Jake has 757 00:42:12,978 --> 00:42:15,268 you know, ever expressed concern 758 00:42:15,279 --> 00:42:17,557 to either of you about his gender. 759 00:42:18,525 --> 00:42:19,595 No. 760 00:42:21,743 --> 00:42:23,676 I mean, I don't think so. 761 00:42:25,784 --> 00:42:28,197 I mean, there's a curiosity, maybe. 762 00:42:28,442 --> 00:42:31,134 Um, he asked once, we were having dinner 763 00:42:31,169 --> 00:42:35,260 and he asked why boys can't wear skirts. 764 00:42:35,932 --> 00:42:38,210 You know, 'cause girls can wear pants. 765 00:42:39,338 --> 00:42:40,477 What'd you tell him? 766 00:42:40,597 --> 00:42:43,151 We told him the truth, I guess, which is.. 767 00:42:43,162 --> 00:42:46,096 ...there is no good reason, really. 768 00:42:46,287 --> 00:42:48,151 But then, I -- I mentioned that, um 769 00:42:48,186 --> 00:42:50,637 in Scotland men wear kilts 770 00:42:50,671 --> 00:42:53,396 which are kind of like skirts. 771 00:42:53,407 --> 00:42:56,410 We Google-imaged kilts, looked at some pictures. 772 00:42:56,712 --> 00:42:59,542 He wasn't very impressed. 773 00:43:00,750 --> 00:43:03,132 So you didn't tell him 774 00:43:03,166 --> 00:43:05,375 there are men who do wear dresses 775 00:43:05,410 --> 00:43:06,687 in our culture? 776 00:43:17,871 --> 00:43:20,321 You talk to Judy at all? Recently? 777 00:43:21,288 --> 00:43:23,808 Week before last maybe. Why? 778 00:43:27,052 --> 00:43:29,641 I was just wondering if we might 779 00:43:29,676 --> 00:43:32,368 wanna bring Jake to see someone. 780 00:43:32,402 --> 00:43:34,197 - A professional. - Why? 781 00:43:34,232 --> 00:43:38,305 It's a lot of change, all at once. You know? 782 00:43:38,339 --> 00:43:41,273 - He's visited a bunch of schools. - Right. 783 00:43:41,308 --> 00:43:43,369 I mean, and if he's already having trouble regulating 784 00:43:43,379 --> 00:43:46,071 his, you know, I mean.. 785 00:43:48,897 --> 00:43:50,761 Maybe it could be helpful. 786 00:43:50,772 --> 00:43:52,532 You don't think that might make things worse? 787 00:43:52,705 --> 00:43:53,809 How? 788 00:43:55,322 --> 00:43:58,152 I don't know. He's only four. 789 00:43:59,852 --> 00:44:02,639 We put him in therapy, and then there's a.. 790 00:44:02,985 --> 00:44:05,712 Suddenly, there's a stranger asking all these questions -- 791 00:44:05,746 --> 00:44:08,305 You know that's not how it works. 792 00:44:09,094 --> 00:44:11,121 But what if he starts thinking there's something wrong with him? 793 00:44:11,131 --> 00:44:13,064 That's not what I'm saying. 794 00:44:13,098 --> 00:44:15,929 No, I know it's not. But, you know, it's.. 795 00:44:17,724 --> 00:44:20,209 I don't know, it's, it's the message he might get. 796 00:44:28,044 --> 00:44:30,668 Kids are moody. He'll be fine. 797 00:44:37,985 --> 00:44:40,091 Okay, I think it's time that we clean all this up 798 00:44:40,125 --> 00:44:42,576 and get ready to go home. 799 00:44:42,610 --> 00:44:45,303 Jake, I'd like you to come out and help us, please. 800 00:44:45,337 --> 00:44:46,304 No. 801 00:44:46,338 --> 00:44:47,754 I really, really, really 802 00:44:47,788 --> 00:44:48,962 need your help to clean up 803 00:44:48,996 --> 00:44:51,447 because we're getting ready to go home. 804 00:44:51,481 --> 00:44:54,450 Jake, I'd like you to come out and help us clean this up. 805 00:44:54,484 --> 00:44:55,796 Please? 806 00:45:01,214 --> 00:45:02,802 You need help in there? 807 00:45:12,606 --> 00:45:15,146 Sandra. Hi, it's -- it's Greg Wheeler. 808 00:45:15,643 --> 00:45:17,645 I -- I thought we were scheduled for 2 p.m. today. 809 00:45:17,680 --> 00:45:21,794 Um, maybe you're on your way, or maybe something came up. 810 00:45:22,054 --> 00:45:26,747 Anyway, uh, call me back so we can reschedule, if -- if we need to. 811 00:45:41,462 --> 00:45:42,462 Here you go, bud. 812 00:45:43,533 --> 00:45:45,053 - Working on your states again? - Yeah. 813 00:45:46,124 --> 00:45:48,057 Oh, I bet that's your grandma. 814 00:45:50,167 --> 00:45:52,393 Oh, Catherine! You are a lifesaver! 815 00:45:52,404 --> 00:45:54,579 I'm so sorry. We had a sitter lined up. 816 00:45:54,613 --> 00:45:55,555 She's very reliable. 817 00:45:55,566 --> 00:45:56,882 I have no idea what happened this time. 818 00:45:56,892 --> 00:45:58,894 Well, I don't know why you would pay anyone. 819 00:45:58,928 --> 00:46:00,679 I've told Alex a thousand times 820 00:46:00,690 --> 00:46:01,887 I'm happy to have my time with him. 821 00:46:01,897 --> 00:46:03,208 That's very sweet. 822 00:46:03,243 --> 00:46:04,923 We just.. We know that you're busy and we.. 823 00:46:04,934 --> 00:46:06,384 - We wanted to -- - Hi, honey. 824 00:46:06,418 --> 00:46:08,973 Oh, I ran into Simon Weingold. 825 00:46:09,007 --> 00:46:10,491 He was asking after you. 826 00:46:10,526 --> 00:46:11,724 Said they're missing you terribly. 827 00:46:11,734 --> 00:46:12,804 Aww, that's nice of him. 828 00:46:12,839 --> 00:46:14,244 And I said with Jake in school next year 829 00:46:14,254 --> 00:46:16,739 you're gonna have a lot more time on your hands. 830 00:46:16,774 --> 00:46:18,016 Uh, Jake? 831 00:46:18,051 --> 00:46:20,398 - Come say hi to Nana! - I still need Montana. 832 00:46:20,432 --> 00:46:21,744 Honey, no time to curl your hair? 833 00:46:21,779 --> 00:46:23,919 How often do you go out, for goodness sakes? 834 00:46:23,953 --> 00:46:26,677 Well, wear it behind if you can't.. Yeah. 835 00:46:27,163 --> 00:46:28,613 Oh, what have we got here? 836 00:46:28,647 --> 00:46:31,374 Uh, that's from the dress-up corner at Jake's school. 837 00:46:31,409 --> 00:46:33,159 - Let me see it. - His teacher let him take it. 838 00:46:33,169 --> 00:46:36,932 Oh. Oh, no need to explain, I do read "The New York Times." 839 00:46:36,966 --> 00:46:38,830 God forbid anything should be off-limits. 840 00:46:38,865 --> 00:46:39,831 So, um -- 841 00:46:39,866 --> 00:46:41,660 Where is my favorite grandson? 842 00:46:41,695 --> 00:46:43,076 His dinner's ready in the fridge. 843 00:46:43,110 --> 00:46:44,239 Just zap it in the microwave, two, three minutes. 844 00:46:44,249 --> 00:46:45,216 Set the timer and it goes automatically. 845 00:46:45,250 --> 00:46:46,320 Remember, keep it behind. 846 00:46:46,355 --> 00:46:47,518 Yeah, I have used a microwave before. 847 00:46:47,528 --> 00:46:48,796 Oh, and the super's right downstairs. 848 00:46:48,806 --> 00:46:50,704 If you -- you need anything, just knock. 849 00:46:50,738 --> 00:46:52,298 He stays there, he's almost always home. 850 00:46:53,638 --> 00:46:56,089 I did raise two of my own, you remember that, don't you? 851 00:46:56,123 --> 00:46:57,607 - Very true. - Thank you. 852 00:46:57,642 --> 00:46:59,220 Okay. Put a brush through your hair, honey, really. 853 00:46:59,230 --> 00:47:00,808 - Thank you again. Love you. - All right. 854 00:47:00,818 --> 00:47:02,750 - Thank you. - Bye-bye. Bye-bye. 855 00:47:04,028 --> 00:47:06,295 Here I come! Ready or not! 856 00:47:06,604 --> 00:47:08,815 Yeah, marketing's gotta be fascinating in that way. 857 00:47:08,826 --> 00:47:11,069 Just the whole "Trying to get inside peoples' heads." 858 00:47:11,104 --> 00:47:13,002 It must be such a creative challenge. 859 00:47:13,037 --> 00:47:15,177 You know, it is not about being creative. 860 00:47:15,211 --> 00:47:16,557 That's what people don't get. 861 00:47:16,592 --> 00:47:18,239 - Well, I think you're creative. - Thank you. 862 00:47:18,249 --> 00:47:19,733 But you gotta understand 863 00:47:19,767 --> 00:47:22,529 people are up against so many goddamn options. 864 00:47:22,563 --> 00:47:25,532 - You want some more? - For everything. Right? 865 00:47:25,566 --> 00:47:28,052 I mean, you walk into a market, you see like 866 00:47:28,086 --> 00:47:29,975 twenty different kinds of water, for Christ sake. 867 00:47:29,985 --> 00:47:31,400 I mean.. 868 00:47:31,434 --> 00:47:33,150 So the best marketing strategy is not about being creative. 869 00:47:33,160 --> 00:47:34,255 - I'm not gonna.. - No, no, no, no. 870 00:47:34,265 --> 00:47:35,335 It's about being direct. 871 00:47:35,369 --> 00:47:37,130 It's about being simple. 872 00:47:37,164 --> 00:47:38,994 And ultimately, people.. 873 00:47:39,028 --> 00:47:41,272 And, look, I'll just say this. 874 00:47:41,306 --> 00:47:42,576 I'm sorry. 875 00:47:43,136 --> 00:47:44,576 Especially women.. 876 00:47:45,310 --> 00:47:46,933 ...they wanna be told what to do. 877 00:47:48,818 --> 00:47:50,474 No, we don't. 878 00:47:50,626 --> 00:47:52,421 I call complete bullshit on that. 879 00:47:52,455 --> 00:47:54,216 - It's not bullshit. - So much bullshit. 880 00:47:54,250 --> 00:47:55,803 Can I get anyone another round? 881 00:47:55,838 --> 00:47:57,253 Yeah, I'd love another drink. 882 00:47:57,288 --> 00:47:58,254 Uh.. 883 00:47:58,289 --> 00:47:59,428 I'm sorry. 884 00:47:59,462 --> 00:48:00,971 What is your favorite specialty cocktail? 885 00:48:00,981 --> 00:48:02,051 Ah! Case in point. 886 00:48:02,086 --> 00:48:03,180 No, that's not what I'm doing. 887 00:48:03,190 --> 00:48:04,433 I'm asking her opinion. 888 00:48:04,467 --> 00:48:05,987 I really like the elderflower Saketini. 889 00:48:06,021 --> 00:48:08,644 - I can't hear you. - Um, yeah, sure. I'll have one of those. 890 00:48:08,678 --> 00:48:10,680 - Thank you. - What's going on? 891 00:48:10,715 --> 00:48:12,648 I -- I'm so sorry. 892 00:48:13,097 --> 00:48:14,477 He what? 893 00:48:16,134 --> 00:48:18,067 - I'll be back. - Yeah. Okay. 894 00:48:19,482 --> 00:48:22,037 Calm down. No, no, no, I understand. 895 00:48:22,071 --> 00:48:23,417 What happened? 896 00:48:23,452 --> 00:48:25,523 - He threw Cinderella at her. - What? 897 00:48:25,557 --> 00:48:26,731 The figurine. 898 00:48:29,182 --> 00:48:32,495 Look.. Look, just -- just put him on the phone, okay? 899 00:48:32,530 --> 00:48:34,050 I wanna talk to him. 900 00:48:35,015 --> 00:48:36,948 Yeah, well, tell him if he doesn't stop now 901 00:48:36,983 --> 00:48:38,215 we're canceling his birthday party. 902 00:48:38,225 --> 00:48:39,354 - I'm -- I'm serious. - Whoa, whoa, whoa. Whoa. 903 00:48:39,364 --> 00:48:40,331 Wait. Wait a minute. Let me talk to her. 904 00:48:40,365 --> 00:48:41,332 Let me talk to her. Come here. 905 00:48:41,366 --> 00:48:43,023 Hey. Hi, Cate. It's Greg. 906 00:48:43,058 --> 00:48:45,094 I'm so sorry. Do you need us to come home? 907 00:48:45,129 --> 00:48:47,683 - That's exactly what he wants! - What's that? 908 00:48:47,717 --> 00:48:49,271 No, I know. 909 00:48:50,515 --> 00:48:52,897 No, we'll leave the phone on so you co.. 910 00:48:54,851 --> 00:48:57,750 Right. Okay, well.. Bye. 911 00:48:58,004 --> 00:49:00,144 I mean, he's not an idiot. He knows what he's doing. 912 00:49:00,178 --> 00:49:02,298 Well, yeah. I mean, honestly, if you're upset about it 913 00:49:02,318 --> 00:49:03,620 you might consider listening to me 914 00:49:03,630 --> 00:49:04,932 and maybe we should bring him to see someone. 915 00:49:04,942 --> 00:49:06,278 Okay. Can we not do this right now? 916 00:49:06,288 --> 00:49:07,772 He just assaulted his grandmother. 917 00:49:07,806 --> 00:49:09,291 Well, she's probably exaggerating. 918 00:49:09,325 --> 00:49:11,431 Oh, and you threaten to cancel his birthday party 919 00:49:11,465 --> 00:49:12,865 because she's probably exaggerating? 920 00:49:12,880 --> 00:49:15,538 Greg, I was setting a boundary. That's allowed. 921 00:49:15,573 --> 00:49:17,599 Yeah, it is, but don't flip it around and try to minimize it. 922 00:49:17,609 --> 00:49:18,980 If he's acting out, he's acting out. 923 00:49:18,990 --> 00:49:20,992 Greg, he's a kid. 924 00:49:21,027 --> 00:49:23,546 God forbid, he should be a little more aggressive than you. 925 00:49:29,449 --> 00:49:32,003 - I'm so sorry, guys. - Oh, of course. 926 00:49:32,038 --> 00:49:34,454 - Is everything okay? - Oh, y -- you know. 927 00:49:34,488 --> 00:49:36,525 He's just punishing us for having a night out. 928 00:49:36,559 --> 00:49:38,285 You know, maybe I should go. 929 00:49:38,320 --> 00:49:39,873 - Greg, we offered. - I know. 930 00:49:39,907 --> 00:49:41,451 But I just think that if one of us was there -- 931 00:49:41,461 --> 00:49:43,911 We can't just upend our plans every time he's in a mood. 932 00:49:43,946 --> 00:49:46,535 - Where's the lesson in that? - Fine. You're the boss. 933 00:49:46,569 --> 00:49:48,433 Here you are, miss. The elderflower Saketini. 934 00:49:48,468 --> 00:49:49,607 Thank you. Perfect timing. 935 00:49:49,641 --> 00:49:51,195 - Cheers to grown-up time. - Cheers. 936 00:49:54,646 --> 00:49:57,028 So, Caitlyn Jenner. 937 00:49:57,063 --> 00:50:00,066 - Is she a lesbian now or what? - What? 938 00:50:00,100 --> 00:50:02,344 Well, okay, so I was listening to this interview 939 00:50:02,378 --> 00:50:08,315 where, um, he, she, uh, yeah, Ms. Jenner, uh, she said that 940 00:50:08,350 --> 00:50:10,628 she was still attracted to women. 941 00:50:10,662 --> 00:50:13,458 And, you know, even though now she's a.. 942 00:50:13,493 --> 00:50:16,599 So I was just wondering, is she.. What is she now? 943 00:50:16,634 --> 00:50:17,659 - Is she a lesbian or what? - I'm sorry. 944 00:50:17,669 --> 00:50:19,188 - How did we get onto.. - I know. 945 00:50:19,223 --> 00:50:21,121 It was just.. I have no idea. 946 00:50:21,156 --> 00:50:23,089 It just, you know, he watches so much TV. 947 00:50:23,123 --> 00:50:26,264 I was just reminded of it because when you were outside 948 00:50:26,299 --> 00:50:28,856 we were talking about your son, and.. 949 00:50:29,738 --> 00:50:33,811 I, I was just explaining that.. 950 00:50:34,874 --> 00:50:37,083 I was just saying it's hard, you know? 951 00:50:37,344 --> 00:50:39,381 Admissions time, kindergarten. 952 00:50:39,415 --> 00:50:42,729 It's so hard for, for a child, you know, who.. 953 00:50:42,763 --> 00:50:45,111 - Who, who what? - Who just.. 954 00:50:45,145 --> 00:50:47,044 Who has a unique expression. Alex -- 955 00:50:47,078 --> 00:50:49,563 Listen, hey, you know, my brother, Mikey 956 00:50:49,598 --> 00:50:54,120 when he was a kid, he was obsessed with that 957 00:50:54,154 --> 00:50:56,994 uh, that, that game Pretty Pretty Princess. 958 00:50:57,067 --> 00:51:00,770 And, you know, you cut to, uh, freshman year of college 959 00:51:00,781 --> 00:51:02,300 and he's on the football team. 960 00:51:02,335 --> 00:51:03,991 Two hundred pounds, six-foot-three. 961 00:51:04,026 --> 00:51:05,303 So it just goes to show -- 962 00:51:05,338 --> 00:51:06,580 I'm not sure I follow. 963 00:51:06,615 --> 00:51:08,479 I'm just saying that you, you may.. 964 00:51:08,513 --> 00:51:11,102 You, you probably don't need, need to worry. 965 00:51:11,137 --> 00:51:12,690 - That's all. - No one's worried. 966 00:51:12,724 --> 00:51:13,794 That's not what he meant. 967 00:51:13,829 --> 00:51:14,889 Well, that's not exactly true. 968 00:51:14,899 --> 00:51:16,003 I'm a little worried. 969 00:51:16,038 --> 00:51:17,522 And so are his teachers -- 970 00:51:17,557 --> 00:51:18,868 All right, you know what? 971 00:51:18,903 --> 00:51:20,180 Amal, let me ask you something. 972 00:51:20,215 --> 00:51:22,941 You took Sanjay to see a therapist last year, right? 973 00:51:22,976 --> 00:51:24,874 - Greg. - I'm sorry. 974 00:51:24,909 --> 00:51:27,808 Is that a taboo subject? I just.. We're all friends here. 975 00:51:27,843 --> 00:51:29,283 I think you've had a little too much to drink. 976 00:51:29,293 --> 00:51:33,319 I just am curious about your experience as a parent. 977 00:51:33,533 --> 00:51:35,218 And it's fine. 978 00:51:36,093 --> 00:51:37,128 Well, with the divorce 979 00:51:37,163 --> 00:51:38,612 we wanted to be safe. 980 00:51:38,647 --> 00:51:40,511 - So I took him to a therapist. - Thank you. 981 00:51:40,545 --> 00:51:43,134 Okay. Well, that was a very different situation. 982 00:51:43,169 --> 00:51:44,004 How is that different? 983 00:51:44,015 --> 00:51:46,093 Because with Sanjay there was an obvious problem. 984 00:51:46,103 --> 00:51:48,760 - What do you mean by that? - No, not, not problem. I.. 985 00:51:48,795 --> 00:51:51,246 - Right. - No, no, no. I just meant.. 986 00:51:51,280 --> 00:51:53,144 You know, there was something external. 987 00:51:53,179 --> 00:51:54,653 - Not just how he likes to play. - I think we should just.. 988 00:51:54,663 --> 00:51:56,172 I really think we should just drop this right now. 989 00:51:56,182 --> 00:51:57,345 It's more than how he likes to play. 990 00:51:57,355 --> 00:51:58,450 - What's that supposed to mean? - It means -- 991 00:51:58,460 --> 00:51:59,944 What? What were you gonna say? 992 00:51:59,978 --> 00:52:02,536 - We can talk about it later. - No. What? 993 00:52:03,085 --> 00:52:04,284 Let's have it. What were you gonna say? 994 00:52:04,294 --> 00:52:05,903 We're all friends, right? 995 00:52:06,784 --> 00:52:07,661 Fine. 996 00:52:07,672 --> 00:52:10,530 Uh, I was giving Jake a bath the other night 997 00:52:10,541 --> 00:52:14,027 and he tucked his penis between his legs, okay? 998 00:52:14,061 --> 00:52:15,832 All boys do that. 999 00:52:16,108 --> 00:52:17,316 Right? 1000 00:52:17,444 --> 00:52:18,894 - Well, not really. - Sure. 1001 00:52:18,928 --> 00:52:20,792 Oh, come on. You're saying Sanjay's never.. 1002 00:52:20,827 --> 00:52:21,931 - No. - Okay. 1003 00:52:21,966 --> 00:52:23,450 You're saying he's done this before? 1004 00:52:24,486 --> 00:52:25,625 Well, it's bath time. 1005 00:52:25,659 --> 00:52:27,627 What am I supposed to say, "No?" 1006 00:52:27,661 --> 00:52:29,481 Clearly, you're the one who had a problem with it. 1007 00:52:29,491 --> 00:52:30,975 I didn't say I had a problem with it. 1008 00:52:31,009 --> 00:52:33,115 I said that there are people who specialize 1009 00:52:33,150 --> 00:52:34,772 in exactly this type of behavior. 1010 00:52:34,806 --> 00:52:36,843 Frankly, I'm not sure what Jake needs right now 1011 00:52:36,877 --> 00:52:39,156 is one more adult in his life gossiping behind his back. 1012 00:52:39,190 --> 00:52:40,502 Oh, my -- 1013 00:52:40,536 --> 00:52:41,503 Trying to come up with some sort of diagnosis. 1014 00:52:41,537 --> 00:52:43,298 No one was gossiping, Alex! 1015 00:52:43,332 --> 00:52:45,714 You need to really stop it. It's just.. 1016 00:52:45,748 --> 00:52:48,199 Hey, can I interest anyone in some dessert? 1017 00:52:48,234 --> 00:52:49,235 We're good. 1018 00:52:49,269 --> 00:52:51,513 Just, just the check. 1019 00:53:32,519 --> 00:53:35,971 Okay. You can just take a seat back there. 1020 00:53:39,159 --> 00:53:43,232 - How much have I gained? - Three pounds since last time. 1021 00:53:43,243 --> 00:53:48,110 So a total of almost five. 1022 00:53:48,129 --> 00:53:49,716 I feel like with my son it was more. 1023 00:53:49,916 --> 00:53:51,124 Yeah, it varies. 1024 00:53:51,158 --> 00:53:54,092 But it's definitely within the normal range. 1025 00:53:55,245 --> 00:53:59,283 And your iron was a little low last time. 1026 00:53:59,294 --> 00:54:01,296 I'm taking the supplement he recommended. 1027 00:54:17,150 --> 00:54:18,151 Take a deep breath. 1028 00:54:19,186 --> 00:54:20,186 Okay. 1029 00:54:26,953 --> 00:54:28,541 Just breathe. 1030 00:55:03,817 --> 00:55:05,957 Hey! Hi, Kimmie. 1031 00:55:05,992 --> 00:55:09,133 Good Lord! That is almost as big as Jake! 1032 00:55:09,167 --> 00:55:10,366 Yeah. Well, I kept the receipt. 1033 00:55:10,376 --> 00:55:12,378 I know he's particular. 1034 00:55:12,412 --> 00:55:16,865 - You guys know Amal. - Nice to see you. How are you? 1035 00:55:19,350 --> 00:55:21,559 Oh, my goodness gracious. 1036 00:55:21,594 --> 00:55:23,458 - Hi, Mom. Hi. - Oh, hi, honey. 1037 00:55:23,492 --> 00:55:24,666 Don't you look nice. 1038 00:55:24,700 --> 00:55:26,495 - Who was, uh.. - Hi, Kimmie. 1039 00:55:26,530 --> 00:55:28,152 How are you doing? 1040 00:55:32,329 --> 00:55:34,261 Kimmie, we don't run inside! 1041 00:55:36,471 --> 00:55:37,817 Can I hold it? 1042 00:55:37,851 --> 00:55:39,681 - Everybody, it's for Jake. - Let me see it. 1043 00:55:39,715 --> 00:55:42,925 It's his present, his birthday. Thank you. 1044 00:56:00,387 --> 00:56:01,621 You need some help, sweetheart? 1045 00:56:01,631 --> 00:56:03,184 - No, I'm almost done. - Ah. 1046 00:56:03,429 --> 00:56:04,740 My daughter, the baker. 1047 00:56:04,775 --> 00:56:06,570 You know, I wish you wouldn't do that. 1048 00:56:06,604 --> 00:56:08,123 What? 1049 00:56:08,157 --> 00:56:12,265 Like all this is just a waste of time. 1050 00:56:13,167 --> 00:56:14,478 I wasn't.. 1051 00:56:15,649 --> 00:56:19,756 I, I just meant you didn't learn that from me. 1052 00:56:24,691 --> 00:56:26,624 Stop it! 1053 00:56:26,659 --> 00:56:28,454 Hey! Stop it! Sanjay! 1054 00:56:28,488 --> 00:56:30,605 - What is the matter with you, baby? - What happened? 1055 00:56:30,766 --> 00:56:32,527 Sanjay pushed Bobby. 1056 00:56:32,561 --> 00:56:35,978 He started it, because Bobby called Jake a flag. 1057 00:56:36,013 --> 00:56:37,601 - Oh. - Oh. 1058 00:56:38,947 --> 00:56:40,051 Flag? 1059 00:56:43,012 --> 00:56:44,676 - Jake, honey? - Hey, Mom. No, no, no, no. 1060 00:56:44,686 --> 00:56:45,998 I -- I got it. I got it. 1061 00:56:56,585 --> 00:56:57,862 Hey. 1062 00:57:00,106 --> 00:57:01,418 Hey, you okay? 1063 00:57:03,005 --> 00:57:05,111 It's almost time to make a wish. 1064 00:57:08,148 --> 00:57:10,875 Babe, come on. 1065 00:57:12,728 --> 00:57:13,902 Honey. 1066 00:57:15,155 --> 00:57:16,881 Honey, talk to me. 1067 00:57:16,916 --> 00:57:18,193 Please? 1068 00:58:18,218 --> 00:58:19,703 You know, it's just.. 1069 00:58:19,737 --> 00:58:22,015 - Excuse me one moment. - Sure. 1070 00:58:30,127 --> 00:58:31,638 Laurel, it's gotta stop. 1071 00:58:31,649 --> 00:58:33,428 I -- I know that you're with a client right now 1072 00:58:33,438 --> 00:58:35,122 and I really hate to interrupt, but this is -- 1073 00:58:35,132 --> 00:58:36,789 I'm not with a client. 1074 00:58:37,583 --> 00:58:38,583 W -- what? 1075 00:58:38,631 --> 00:58:41,565 I said, I'm not with a client. 1076 00:58:44,382 --> 00:58:45,694 You seem angry. 1077 00:58:45,729 --> 00:58:47,662 Is there something you need to release? 1078 00:59:04,195 --> 00:59:06,232 We'll talk to you next week. Thank you so much. 1079 00:59:07,682 --> 00:59:08,821 - Hi. - Hi. 1080 00:59:08,855 --> 00:59:10,029 Right on time. 1081 00:59:10,063 --> 00:59:12,031 Got some good news for us? 1082 00:59:13,066 --> 00:59:14,447 Come on in. 1083 00:59:19,348 --> 00:59:21,981 Okay, but this is preliminary feedback, right? 1084 00:59:21,992 --> 00:59:23,548 They haven't made their decisions. 1085 00:59:23,559 --> 00:59:24,664 That's true. 1086 00:59:24,699 --> 00:59:28,461 So is there any chance one could still end up accepting him? 1087 00:59:28,495 --> 00:59:31,568 It's possible, but I have to be honest. 1088 00:59:31,602 --> 00:59:35,442 At this point, it's unlikely it would come with financial aid. 1089 00:59:35,567 --> 00:59:39,156 What about, uh, the magnets? Uh, BSI? PS 20? 1090 00:59:39,167 --> 00:59:40,927 We'll know more in a few weeks. 1091 00:59:41,151 --> 00:59:43,049 But his scores were so high. 1092 00:59:43,131 --> 00:59:44,719 They're very strong 1093 00:59:44,753 --> 00:59:46,203 but the cut-offs go up every year. 1094 00:59:46,237 --> 00:59:48,343 There's just too much demand. 1095 00:59:49,429 --> 00:59:52,830 So, you're saying he could be shut out everywhere? 1096 00:59:53,706 --> 00:59:56,640 I'm saying we need to be prepared. 1097 00:59:59,776 --> 01:00:01,743 You know what? This is a numbers game. 1098 01:00:01,941 --> 01:00:02,941 We knew this. 1099 01:00:03,028 --> 01:00:04,270 We went to public school. 1100 01:00:04,290 --> 01:00:06,533 - We turned out okay, right? - Mm-hmm. 1101 01:00:06,568 --> 01:00:08,639 Remember, he could also do another year with us. 1102 01:00:08,674 --> 01:00:10,296 Reapply next fall. 1103 01:00:10,330 --> 01:00:14,024 I know it's not ideal, but under the circumstances 1104 01:00:14,058 --> 01:00:17,234 I think it might be the best thing for him. 1105 01:00:17,268 --> 01:00:19,408 - What do you mean? - She's just -- 1106 01:00:19,443 --> 01:00:20,986 I mean, if the gifted programs don't work -- 1107 01:00:20,996 --> 01:00:23,999 No, but, but what circumstances? 1108 01:00:24,010 --> 01:00:27,865 Look, there is no question he's bright. 1109 01:00:27,900 --> 01:00:31,144 He's creative. That comes across in all of the feedback. 1110 01:00:31,179 --> 01:00:35,252 But several places also note that he gets stubborn 1111 01:00:35,286 --> 01:00:37,288 and defensive when dealing with other kids. 1112 01:00:37,323 --> 01:00:41,085 Frankly, you two are very lucky to be raising a kid like Jake 1113 01:00:41,120 --> 01:00:44,192 now instead of 50 years ago, even 20 years ago. 1114 01:00:44,226 --> 01:00:46,661 What exactly does that mean? "A kid like Jake?" 1115 01:00:46,672 --> 01:00:48,220 Okay, you know, I think we're getting off topic -- 1116 01:00:48,230 --> 01:00:51,026 Alex, I'm very sorry that this isn't the news 1117 01:00:51,061 --> 01:00:53,270 we were hoping for, but you have to understand 1118 01:00:53,304 --> 01:00:54,961 the number of spots we're talking about -- 1119 01:00:54,996 --> 01:00:56,307 Of course, and -- and -- and 1120 01:00:56,342 --> 01:00:58,102 I know how many kids you have to place. 1121 01:00:58,137 --> 01:01:01,519 Whoa. I'm not sure what you're implying here 1122 01:01:01,554 --> 01:01:04,074 but you know that I care very deeply about Jake. 1123 01:01:04,108 --> 01:01:06,352 Which is why I'm doing everything in my power 1124 01:01:06,386 --> 01:01:08,388 to place him somewhere where he feels safe 1125 01:01:08,423 --> 01:01:09,700 and comfortable enough to -- 1126 01:01:09,735 --> 01:01:11,771 - To dress like a girl. - Okay. 1127 01:01:11,806 --> 01:01:14,360 I mean, that -- that's obviously what you're saying 1128 01:01:14,394 --> 01:01:17,915 and maybe the problem is that we all started pitching him as -- 1129 01:01:17,950 --> 01:01:19,355 Alex, he had no idea what was in that essay. 1130 01:01:19,365 --> 01:01:20,607 It doesn't matter! 1131 01:01:20,642 --> 01:01:22,782 Obviously it's going to affect the way that people -- 1132 01:01:22,817 --> 01:01:25,761 I'm talking about him feeling safe and respected. 1133 01:01:25,772 --> 01:01:28,535 Yes, but isn't there a danger of imposing -- 1134 01:01:28,546 --> 01:01:31,411 Imposing what exactly? 1135 01:01:32,792 --> 01:01:34,483 No, not, not, not imposing. 1136 01:01:34,518 --> 01:01:37,107 That -- that was, that.. 1137 01:01:37,970 --> 01:01:39,143 Greg. 1138 01:01:39,178 --> 01:01:42,422 Alex, do you think my sexual orientation 1139 01:01:42,457 --> 01:01:45,702 has anything to do with my advice regarding your son? 1140 01:01:45,736 --> 01:01:47,220 - What? - Judy, of course not. 1141 01:01:47,255 --> 01:01:49,775 Because every time I try to bring up my concerns 1142 01:01:49,809 --> 01:01:52,709 you respond like I'm pushing some political agenda. 1143 01:01:52,743 --> 01:01:54,124 And let me tell you 1144 01:01:54,158 --> 01:01:57,127 the impulse to embrace children as they are is not an agenda. 1145 01:01:57,161 --> 01:01:58,611 No, I -- I never -- 1146 01:01:58,645 --> 01:02:00,993 And like it or not, you two have some choices to make here. 1147 01:02:01,027 --> 01:02:02,270 There's a problem. 1148 01:02:02,304 --> 01:02:04,893 If you don't believe me, just read the feedback yourself. 1149 01:02:04,928 --> 01:02:07,378 He's acting out. Verbally. Physically. 1150 01:02:07,413 --> 01:02:09,760 Yes, and, maybe.. 1151 01:02:09,795 --> 01:02:10,934 Maybe he's sick of us 1152 01:02:10,968 --> 01:02:13,695 of us pushing him into this, this role. 1153 01:02:13,730 --> 01:02:16,525 Alex, you can't expect him to never realize he's different. 1154 01:02:16,560 --> 01:02:19,425 No, but I can wait until he tells me himself -- 1155 01:02:19,459 --> 01:02:21,082 But it sounds like he's trying 1156 01:02:21,116 --> 01:02:22,773 but you're just determined to ignore it. 1157 01:02:22,808 --> 01:02:24,006 - I am not ignoring it! - Okay. 1158 01:02:24,016 --> 01:02:25,880 - Jesus! - Okay. Okay. 1159 01:02:25,914 --> 01:02:28,365 Maybe if you'd ever had your own kids.. 1160 01:02:33,266 --> 01:02:34,889 You know what? 1161 01:02:34,923 --> 01:02:36,856 We're done. Okay? 1162 01:03:13,686 --> 01:03:15,170 And I'll come grab him. 1163 01:03:15,205 --> 01:03:18,729 Um, I guess I'll just.. I'll text you when we're.. 1164 01:03:18,847 --> 01:03:20,849 No, no, everything's fine. He's.. 1165 01:03:21,142 --> 01:03:23,006 Um, it's, it'll be fine. 1166 01:03:23,040 --> 01:03:25,387 Yeah. Okay. Thank you. 1167 01:03:26,112 --> 01:03:27,251 Bye. 1168 01:04:21,098 --> 01:04:22,410 You should lie down. 1169 01:05:06,972 --> 01:05:08,042 Here. 1170 01:05:16,809 --> 01:05:17,844 Come on. 1171 01:05:45,527 --> 01:05:47,115 I think you should leave. 1172 01:05:52,362 --> 01:05:53,673 I'm not going anywhere. 1173 01:05:54,778 --> 01:05:56,504 We don't have to talk 1174 01:05:56,538 --> 01:05:58,851 but I'm not leaving you alone right now. 1175 01:05:58,885 --> 01:06:01,440 I don't think I can not talk. 1176 01:06:04,236 --> 01:06:07,135 If you're here, I, I don't think I can.. 1177 01:06:09,034 --> 01:06:11,001 ...not say something. 1178 01:06:11,036 --> 01:06:12,992 Something mean. 1179 01:06:13,003 --> 01:06:16,524 I'm very angry. 1180 01:06:18,112 --> 01:06:19,423 I understand. 1181 01:06:20,977 --> 01:06:23,393 I'm angry at you, Greg. 1182 01:06:26,801 --> 01:06:28,250 You should have said something. 1183 01:06:28,536 --> 01:06:31,159 To Judy. She was out of line. 1184 01:06:31,194 --> 01:06:34,576 And -- and -- and you just sat there. 1185 01:06:43,824 --> 01:06:45,472 We're not gonna have this conversation right now. 1186 01:06:45,482 --> 01:06:47,691 Yes, please tell me what conversations -- 1187 01:06:47,702 --> 01:06:49,247 Alex, if you need to be mad at me, that's fine 1188 01:06:49,257 --> 01:06:50,845 but I am not going to fight. That's -- 1189 01:06:50,869 --> 01:06:53,604 You should have said something. 1190 01:06:54,938 --> 01:06:57,518 Well, frankly, I could barely get a word in. 1191 01:06:57,776 --> 01:06:59,951 I was trying to keep things from escalating. 1192 01:07:00,087 --> 01:07:02,710 Right. Right. God forbid anyone gets angry. 1193 01:07:02,777 --> 01:07:04,917 God forbid you ever piss someone off. 1194 01:07:04,951 --> 01:07:06,919 All right, this is ridiculous. You're in shock. 1195 01:07:06,953 --> 01:07:09,853 - And we're both grieving. - Oh, thank you. I'd forgotten. 1196 01:07:09,887 --> 01:07:11,948 You know, trying to make me feel as much pain as you do -- 1197 01:07:11,958 --> 01:07:13,305 That is not what I'm doing. 1198 01:07:13,339 --> 01:07:15,376 Of course it is, maybe not consciously. 1199 01:07:15,410 --> 01:07:16,712 - But that's definitely -- - Oh, my God! 1200 01:07:16,722 --> 01:07:17,792 Things I could do without. 1201 01:07:17,826 --> 01:07:20,346 Number one, the fucking unconscious. 1202 01:07:20,381 --> 01:07:22,245 Please, please, spare me that. 1203 01:07:22,279 --> 01:07:23,763 Fine. Let's blame Freud, right? 1204 01:07:23,798 --> 01:07:25,627 It's Freud's fault you miscarried. 1205 01:07:25,662 --> 01:07:27,146 Oh, I miscarried? 1206 01:07:27,181 --> 01:07:29,045 No, that is not what I.. 1207 01:07:29,079 --> 01:07:31,840 You think if I'd just taken better care of myself? 1208 01:07:31,875 --> 01:07:33,463 Would you please -- 1209 01:07:33,497 --> 01:07:36,111 If -- if -- if -- if, if I hadn't overburdened myself 1210 01:07:36,112 --> 01:07:36,120 Stop. Stop. Stop. 1211 01:07:36,121 --> 01:07:37,456 With Jake's applications? 1212 01:07:37,467 --> 01:07:39,635 If -- if -- if I had let you call an ambulance 1213 01:07:39,676 --> 01:07:40,706 Instead of taking a cab 1214 01:07:40,717 --> 01:07:42,020 maybe we would have gotten there sooner? 1215 01:07:42,030 --> 01:07:44,198 Yeah, well, now we'll never know, will we? 1216 01:07:53,138 --> 01:07:54,794 Ally, I'm sorry. 1217 01:07:54,829 --> 01:07:56,831 - You're an asshole. - Jesus. 1218 01:07:56,865 --> 01:07:58,315 This is hard for me too. 1219 01:07:58,350 --> 01:07:59,789 Is that impossible for you to understand. 1220 01:07:59,799 --> 01:08:02,906 I needed help, Greg 1221 01:08:02,940 --> 01:08:04,770 and you just sat there. 1222 01:08:04,804 --> 01:08:06,530 Like, like you were embarrassed. 1223 01:08:06,565 --> 01:08:08,143 - Do you have any idea -- - Okay, I'm not gonna do this. 1224 01:08:08,153 --> 01:08:10,675 What.. Where're you going? Greg! 1225 01:08:10,925 --> 01:08:13,399 Greg, you can't just walk away in the middle -- 1226 01:08:13,434 --> 01:08:14,883 In the middle of what? An argument? 1227 01:08:14,918 --> 01:08:18,175 This is not an argument. This is you shitting on me. 1228 01:08:18,680 --> 01:08:20,406 So I'm gonna go pick up Jake 1229 01:08:20,441 --> 01:08:22,191 and I'm gonna take him out, and when I get back 1230 01:08:22,201 --> 01:08:23,754 I hope that you're in bed 1231 01:08:23,789 --> 01:08:25,869 'cause frankly, he doesn't need to see you like this. 1232 01:08:25,894 --> 01:08:28,449 Fine. Fine. 1233 01:08:29,933 --> 01:08:32,333 Yeah, go take him out for ice cream. 1234 01:08:32,390 --> 01:08:35,246 And when you're done, why don't you both get your nails done, huh? 1235 01:08:35,559 --> 01:08:37,354 I mean, why not? 1236 01:08:37,389 --> 01:08:39,149 It's not like you've ever taken him to a park 1237 01:08:39,184 --> 01:08:41,772 or thrown a ball in his direction. 1238 01:09:01,413 --> 01:09:03,829 That's a disgusting thing to say. 1239 01:09:07,212 --> 01:09:09,815 You think it's my fault he likes dresses? 1240 01:09:10,353 --> 01:09:13,390 No, you think I'm too effete a role model? 1241 01:09:13,425 --> 01:09:15,348 - Who the fuck are you? - Greg, that's, that's not -- 1242 01:09:15,358 --> 01:09:17,601 Did you listen to the feedback? 1243 01:09:17,636 --> 01:09:19,293 "Stubborn? Defensive?" 1244 01:09:19,327 --> 01:09:21,580 Did that not remind you of anyone? 1245 01:09:21,591 --> 01:09:23,010 Not to mention you're the one reading him 1246 01:09:23,020 --> 01:09:25,437 fairy tales every night, you're the one buying him 1247 01:09:25,471 --> 01:09:28,474 every Disney princess DVD you can get your hands on 1248 01:09:28,509 --> 01:09:31,546 and then, freaking out when people start to notice. 1249 01:09:31,581 --> 01:09:34,417 I mean, is it any wonder he's confused? 1250 01:09:35,412 --> 01:09:37,542 You know, maybe the reason I didn't say anything to Judy 1251 01:09:37,552 --> 01:09:39,237 is because I agree with her. 1252 01:09:39,248 --> 01:09:41,733 And I think we need to make some choices 1253 01:09:41,936 --> 01:09:43,731 about how to address the situation. 1254 01:09:43,765 --> 01:09:45,595 Fine. You know, bring, bring him to a shrink. 1255 01:09:45,629 --> 01:09:47,217 What do I know, right? 1256 01:09:47,252 --> 01:09:49,150 I'm just the one at home with him. 1257 01:09:49,185 --> 01:09:52,188 - All day, every day. What? - Oh, for God's sake! 1258 01:09:52,222 --> 01:09:55,191 You get to have a life outside this apartment. I gave that up. 1259 01:09:55,225 --> 01:09:56,462 Do you wanna go back to work? Do it! 1260 01:09:56,472 --> 01:09:57,700 - No one's stopping you. - No. No. 1261 01:09:57,710 --> 01:10:00,023 I made a choice to be here 1262 01:10:00,057 --> 01:10:02,405 because I wanted him to have a mother who's devoted -- 1263 01:10:02,439 --> 01:10:04,752 And because you hated being a lawyer! 1264 01:10:04,786 --> 01:10:08,583 Christ! Don't pretend like you weren't desperate to get out. 1265 01:10:08,618 --> 01:10:10,240 This is what you wanted. 1266 01:10:10,275 --> 01:10:12,311 So, I'm sorry if motherhood turns out to be 1267 01:10:12,346 --> 01:10:14,727 just another disappointment, but I am his father. 1268 01:10:14,762 --> 01:10:16,902 I live here too, and I'm sick of being treated 1269 01:10:16,936 --> 01:10:19,525 like you're raising him alone. 1270 01:10:19,560 --> 01:10:23,529 Jake is not a disappointment. 1271 01:10:23,564 --> 01:10:26,152 I said motherhood, not Jake. 1272 01:10:28,224 --> 01:10:29,397 This is so.. 1273 01:10:30,226 --> 01:10:32,504 I'm s -- sorry, okay? 1274 01:10:37,198 --> 01:10:39,407 I'm sorry for making you so unhappy. 1275 01:10:39,442 --> 01:10:43,066 I'm -- I'm sorry for taking you for granted. 1276 01:10:43,100 --> 01:10:46,276 I'm -- I'm sorry for all the ways 1277 01:10:46,311 --> 01:10:48,244 I've fucked things up with Jake. 1278 01:10:48,278 --> 01:10:50,964 - Ally. - I am. I am. 1279 01:10:50,975 --> 01:10:53,041 - I'm sorry about the baby. - No. 1280 01:10:53,076 --> 01:10:55,320 For whatever I did wrong. 1281 01:10:55,354 --> 01:10:57,770 I am not asking you to apologize. 1282 01:10:57,805 --> 01:11:00,601 Just please, please, let's just stop. 1283 01:11:29,595 --> 01:11:31,321 It's Judy. 1284 01:11:33,944 --> 01:11:36,222 She called before at the hospital. 1285 01:11:38,017 --> 01:11:40,675 Just wanted to make sure everything was okay. 1286 01:11:49,408 --> 01:11:51,341 Well, it's not. 1287 01:13:31,234 --> 01:13:33,236 What do you think is holding you back? 1288 01:13:35,203 --> 01:13:38,241 I mean, like I said it's stupid. It's just a signature. 1289 01:13:40,519 --> 01:13:42,854 It's not like it changes anything. 1290 01:13:43,211 --> 01:13:45,565 I mean, his stuff's already gone. 1291 01:13:46,249 --> 01:13:48,550 The financials are straightforward. 1292 01:13:49,010 --> 01:13:50,943 There's no custody battle. 1293 01:13:54,430 --> 01:13:56,639 Silver linings, right? 1294 01:14:01,834 --> 01:14:03,112 You know.. 1295 01:14:03,956 --> 01:14:06,027 ...you never really talked about that. 1296 01:14:07,230 --> 01:14:08,403 What? 1297 01:14:10,145 --> 01:14:11,802 Well.. 1298 01:14:13,966 --> 01:14:15,589 ...kids. 1299 01:14:17,038 --> 01:14:18,454 There's not much to talk about. 1300 01:14:21,639 --> 01:14:24,534 We talked about IVF.. 1301 01:14:25,354 --> 01:14:27,908 ...and how hard that was, on both of you. 1302 01:14:29,809 --> 01:14:34,745 But I don't think you ever mentioned the decision to stop. 1303 01:14:38,059 --> 01:14:39,371 Does that matter? 1304 01:14:41,269 --> 01:14:42,857 At this point? 1305 01:14:45,401 --> 01:14:46,954 I think it might. 1306 01:14:49,485 --> 01:14:52,418 Just, just my two cents. 1307 01:14:55,801 --> 01:14:59,287 Well, it was always part of the plan, I guess. 1308 01:15:01,669 --> 01:15:03,947 And when it didn't happen right away.. 1309 01:15:05,466 --> 01:15:09,227 ...we both kept assuming with all the options.. 1310 01:15:09,815 --> 01:15:11,265 ...the next one. 1311 01:15:12,197 --> 01:15:13,612 This'll be the one. 1312 01:15:15,718 --> 01:15:17,167 Then the one after that.. 1313 01:15:19,204 --> 01:15:22,518 ...and the one after that and then, at a certain point.. 1314 01:15:24,312 --> 01:15:26,004 ...I think we both just realized.. 1315 01:15:29,007 --> 01:15:30,940 We were eating take-out one night 1316 01:15:30,974 --> 01:15:33,183 and he looked at me 1317 01:15:33,218 --> 01:15:34,633 and said.. 1318 01:15:39,500 --> 01:15:41,398 "...We're done, aren't we?" 1319 01:15:46,783 --> 01:15:48,405 I guess we were. 1320 01:15:51,650 --> 01:15:53,445 And how did you feel? 1321 01:15:54,722 --> 01:15:56,034 Honestly? 1322 01:16:02,178 --> 01:16:03,869 I felt relieved. 1323 01:16:09,060 --> 01:16:11,994 I knew how much Ben wanted it. 1324 01:16:14,187 --> 01:16:17,743 I knew it was what I should want. 1325 01:16:21,071 --> 01:16:22,452 But.. 1326 01:16:26,479 --> 01:16:27,756 I don't know. 1327 01:16:27,962 --> 01:16:29,550 I thought.. 1328 01:16:31,421 --> 01:16:33,112 Ah, thank God. 1329 01:16:38,524 --> 01:16:40,630 You didn't think you could tell him? 1330 01:16:42,390 --> 01:16:43,668 I think he knew. 1331 01:16:52,608 --> 01:16:54,471 It's so quiet in here. 1332 01:16:54,506 --> 01:16:58,441 Uh, Dr. Hendricks decided to relocate. 1333 01:17:07,519 --> 01:17:09,866 I miss the banshee. 1334 01:17:27,643 --> 01:17:30,128 Okay. 1335 01:17:30,162 --> 01:17:32,855 - Here you go. - Thank you. 1336 01:17:34,719 --> 01:17:35,996 Judy, I.. 1337 01:17:37,825 --> 01:17:39,758 It's really good to see you. 1338 01:17:45,177 --> 01:17:46,765 You -- you try.. 1339 01:17:49,757 --> 01:17:52,622 You try so hard to protect them, but.. 1340 01:17:55,397 --> 01:17:58,848 It's never gonna be easy to really see people. 1341 01:18:00,468 --> 01:18:02,712 Especially the ones we love. 1342 01:18:08,097 --> 01:18:10,202 - Hon? - In here. 1343 01:18:11,410 --> 01:18:13,550 - Alex. Hi. - Hey, Lynn. 1344 01:18:17,727 --> 01:18:19,556 Hey. 1345 01:18:19,591 --> 01:18:23,526 - I am gonna go get changed. - Okay. 1346 01:18:28,393 --> 01:18:30,015 She hates my guts, doesn't she? 1347 01:18:30,050 --> 01:18:31,189 She'll get over it. 1348 01:18:48,137 --> 01:18:51,312 Ah! What's the matter with you? This is a child. 1349 01:18:51,347 --> 01:18:52,658 Get off that bike. 1350 01:18:52,693 --> 01:18:54,488 You're not in control! 1351 01:18:54,522 --> 01:18:56,628 If I ever see you on a bike without a helmet 1352 01:18:56,662 --> 01:18:58,941 it will not be a pretty picture, okay? 1353 01:19:32,733 --> 01:19:34,010 Can't sleep? 1354 01:19:37,255 --> 01:19:40,810 I've noticed some things about this movie. 1355 01:19:42,708 --> 01:19:44,883 Things that don't make sense. 1356 01:19:46,954 --> 01:19:48,404 Because the idea is that 1357 01:19:48,438 --> 01:19:51,303 Cinderella is this abused servant girl, right? 1358 01:19:51,338 --> 01:19:54,720 But she's got an entourage of animals 1359 01:19:54,755 --> 01:19:57,500 waiting on her hand and foot and.. 1360 01:19:57,945 --> 01:20:01,351 They bathe her, they dress her. 1361 01:20:03,868 --> 01:20:05,801 Honestly, she's not doing too bad. 1362 01:20:21,886 --> 01:20:23,611 It's a good school. 1363 01:20:28,099 --> 01:20:30,032 I think he'll be happy. 1364 01:20:39,558 --> 01:20:41,975 You know, when he was a baby 1365 01:20:42,009 --> 01:20:45,150 I was so convinced he knew things. 1366 01:20:48,050 --> 01:20:51,156 I would look at him and wish so badly he could talk 1367 01:20:51,191 --> 01:20:53,849 'cause I was sure he wanted to tell me. 1368 01:20:58,820 --> 01:21:00,131 He's got time. 1369 01:21:04,376 --> 01:21:05,964 Maybe he'll come around. 1370 01:21:20,841 --> 01:21:22,118 Come to bed? 1371 01:21:58,465 --> 01:22:00,743 Mr. and Mrs. Wheeler? 1372 01:22:00,777 --> 01:22:03,021 Come on in. 1373 01:22:03,056 --> 01:22:06,645 Do you know what I've been meaning to ask you about? 1374 01:22:06,680 --> 01:22:09,648 Which one is Aurora again? 1375 01:22:09,683 --> 01:22:10,926 - Aurora? - Yeah. 1376 01:22:10,960 --> 01:22:13,204 That's who you dressed up as, isn't it? 1377 01:22:13,238 --> 01:22:15,723 - Aurora's Sleeping Beauty. - That's right. 1378 01:22:15,758 --> 01:22:16,862 Oh, yes, and they have 1379 01:22:16,897 --> 01:22:18,623 those three little fairies that travel -- 1380 01:22:18,657 --> 01:22:21,867 And they take her to a cottage 1381 01:22:21,902 --> 01:22:23,973 and then she doesn't know she's a princess. 1382 01:22:24,008 --> 01:22:26,389 - Mm-hmm. - And then they have pumpkins they're like.. 1383 01:22:26,424 --> 01:22:27,424 Yeah. That makes sense. 1384 01:22:30,014 --> 01:22:32,223 I'd like to run, I'd like to run some more. 1385 01:22:32,257 --> 01:22:36,020 Ready, ready? One, two, three. Whee! 1386 01:22:37,607 --> 01:22:40,231 One, two, three. Whee!